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PostPosted: Thu Sep 22, 2016 8:11 am 
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Oh man, I started to get sores from pads. I was wearing those giant night time ones and changing them every 1-2 hours. But one thing that helped were padsicles! Google it and you'll find a recipe. But basically you take the pads and put some aloe vera and something else on them and then keep them in the freezer and it feels sooooo good on your sore ladybits.

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Yes the reusable cloth pads were much more comfy. And soaking them in stuff and freezing them was excellent. Sometimes using them warm was good too. My poor vajayjay.


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 Post subject: Re: The Playground randomness thread
PostPosted: Thu Sep 22, 2016 6:24 pm 
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I think what terrifies me about postpartum bleeding is the whole Shittake in the Vagina ban. I haven't gone insertless for a period in years. Even tampons aren't reliable enough for me. . . I'm spoiled by my cup. I don't look forward to bleeding all over everything. Blah!!!

I use a cup for my period, too! But the first few days of pp bleeding, a cup would not cut it. I would literally stand up after sitting for an hour or so and glorp out a shiitake ton of blood. After the first week or two, though, cloth or regular pantiliners were fine for me. For the first week, I used newborn prefold diapers. They were great. I would just change them any time I glorped.
But seriously, there is so much shiitake going on inside your vagina after having a baby, it's best to just stay out of there and ignore it (barring any issues) for 6 weeks. I had a prolapse scare (which turned out to totally not be a prolapse) and let me tell you, my vag was a completely different place 6 weeks later.

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 Post subject: Re: The Playground randomness thread
PostPosted: Thu Sep 22, 2016 6:34 pm 
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I was using Always overnights for my PP bleeding and started developing rashes - I read on a mommy board that other people did too! So go with another brand if you use disposable pads! I switched to carefree and no issues. To heal the rash I used the baby butt cream I had and it worked so well.


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 Post subject: Re: The Playground randomness thread
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I use a cup for my period, too! But the first few days of pp bleeding, a cup would not cut it. I would literally stand up after sitting for an hour or so and glorp out a shiitake ton of blood. After the first week or two, though, cloth or regular pantiliners were fine for me. For the first week, I used newborn prefold diapers. They were great. I would just change them any time I glorpedr.


Yeah, this time around I just stuck folded up flour sack diapers in my underpants for a few days. Way way more breathable and comfortable than the commercial disposable pads.


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PostPosted: Fri Sep 23, 2016 6:03 pm 
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Okay, this is actually scaring me more. I hadn't thought about RASHES. Yikes! Cloth pads wouldn't seem worth the investment, but I might have to take the diaper suggestion.

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 Post subject: Re: The Playground randomness thread
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Just don't use regular-sized prefolds. XD A friend of mine heard I used newborn sized prefolds and got a pack of normal prefolds from Toys R Us for her regular periods (she doesn't have kids) and was horrified at how huge they were. Honestly, any old rag will do in a pinch if you want to do reusable. I've used diaper inserts (they are pretty good and already shaped rather like disposable maternity pads) and muslin squares and wash cloths. (I'm not a fan of cloth pads other than pantiliners, generally, and the cloth pantiliners I like were made from this ebay lady in Portugal and are made from 2 layers of plain cotton weave fabric.)

I've used disposable pads, too. I never got a rash, but Tena pads and this one other sort made it feel like I had a UTI.

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Yeah I wish I had thought of using muslins!


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 Post subject: Re: The Playground randomness thread
PostPosted: Sat Sep 24, 2016 3:30 pm 
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If they did a cloth pad rental service not unlike a diaper service, I'd be all over that. Cloth pads always appealed to me, but after using a cup, I realized all I really need are liners. And since I'm lazy, this just means I use undies I don't care about spotting in, and am sure to run to the bathroom at the first sign of a leak. So meh, mega pads for one month of my life? Not really needed.

I'm just so scared to go without an insert that I'll probably be effectively wearing a diaper between reinforcing cloth stuff and a disposal pad for clothing protection. At least I should be basically at home for the bulk of this time! Right? Right??? (I'm so scared. Hahahaha.)

ALSO: It's only visible if you're like. . me. or my mom*. But my tummy is now visible even when wearing normal clothes, and not just particularly snug ones! I still just look like a fat person with a gut to the average bear, I'm sure. But it makes me get kind of squealy.

My big milestone will be when it sticks out more than my butt. MAYBE before the kid is full term. We'll see.

*My partner should be able to weigh in, but refuses. "I know you're pregnant, so how can I know if you LOOK pregnant? You look pregnant because I know you're pregnant." What a diplomatic response. :/

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 Post subject: Re: The Playground randomness thread
PostPosted: Sat Sep 24, 2016 4:36 pm 
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Sorry that I spam this thread so much. This isn't actually about me.

Had someone call their perinatologist after hours for a long-shot, non-medical situation. She had the anatomy scan on Monday and had the sex written on a piece of paper. She gave that paper to the bakery for a gender reveal cake, with the party scheduled for today. The bakery is the ONLY ONE WHO KNEW THE SEX.

Guess what the bakery did?

Lost the paper before baking the cake, of course!

She knew it was a long shot and asked if she could speak with the doctor on call to find out the sex of the baby, since the party is todAY and damn what a waste of time and money! Of course, I couldn't do that. I even double checked with my supervisor because I felt bad for the poor lady. But I knew it was a long shot because 1) come on 2) some lenient docs might be cool but these docs do not fit the bill. . . maybe because they're hardened high-risk specialists?

So I got to tell her she's SOL. She was understanding and very nice. A big part of me feels bad for the wasted time and money, but mostly I'm amused now. I feel pretty okay about not finding out the sex, and not revealing/finding out in a dramatic way. Look what could happen if you put all your eggs/sperm (heheh) in one basket!

There's a hidden story/joke about gender theory in here, but I'll leave you with this: if you're going for a dramatic reveal, have a backup plan!

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 Post subject: Re: The Playground randomness thread
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So you work for an answering service? My mind is completely blown that you can tell patients that they are not allowed to page their provider! I got a page at 3 am yesterday because someone had two contractions and it was her due date. They didn't hurt, she was just excited to tell me. Asking the sex of the baby on the weekend seems so minor to me! Maybe my practice has instructed our answering service to be nice?


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 Post subject: Re: The Playground randomness thread
PostPosted: Sat Sep 24, 2016 10:23 pm 
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So you work for an answering service? My mind is completely blown that you can tell patients that they are not allowed to page their provider! I got a page at 3 am yesterday because someone had two contractions and it was her due date. They didn't hurt, she was just excited to tell me. Asking the sex of the baby on the weekend seems so minor to me! Maybe my practice has instructed our answering service to be nice?


I do! And yeah, like I said, depending on the client my boss probably would have given me the okay. You sound like a much more nurturing provider than this practice! I can think of a couple doctors who would have allowed it and I probably would have skipped the boss thing and just said "fork it!"
I don't know if your office manager so much had to say "be super nice!!!" as you all had to just not be crassholes, honestly.

Some doctors yell at me for "paging for random questions" instead of emergencies even though if someone states it's a medical question and urgent/an emergency. . . I, person with no medical training, cannot say "no it's not" unless they gave specific instructions not to reach them for the topic (usually prescriptions but I know a few urologists that refuse all UTI calls which is bizarre to me!!). I can only be as nice as people let me be. :/ It's frustrating.

We page for contractions all the live-long day, since it's medical. By the way!

Also this has nothing to do with medicine but I answer for a property management company that doesn't consider water heater problems an emergency and it feels REALLY WEIRD having to turn down that shiitake, especially on a 3-day weekend. I am pretty underpaid for having to be the bad guy in a lot of different guises, haha.

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 Post subject: Re: The Playground randomness thread
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Kind of debating finding out the sex next week. I've been having a lot of anxiety over having a baby with a penis for a few reasons and I'd like to know if that's something I need to prepare for or if I can just shrug those worries off.

Small annoyance: I have no intention of circumcising and the criticism would get old.

Big worry: if the kid has any sort of gender variance, I'm sure there will be at least a handful of crassholes insisting that we're forcing the kid to be trans or something. If baby has vulva, it's whatever. Tomboys are allowed for some reason. Also there are no prominent transmasculine figures in baby's life, so. . . I doubt they'd be thinking anything like that. But if a boy baby wanted to play with a doll? HO BOY. I'm sure we'd be accused of straight-up child abuse.

Even smaller annoyance: pee fountains.

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#1: Is circumcision really that big of a deal? I mean, not the procedure, but like in terms of how many people will care? Our kid is not circumcised and yes people asked about it while I was pregnant/shortly after he was born, but now that he's 8 months it hasn't come up at all in a very long time. Luckily we didn't have anyone close to us who was critical of the decision although we have friends with small babies who either did circumcise, or who said they would have if they'd had a boy. I would think that if anyone asks who you don't want to talk about it with, it would be way enough to change the subject or say you would rather not discuss the details of your kid's genitals with them. I think this would at least make them uncomfortable enough that they would let the subject drop.

#2: I totally get why this is on your mind but I think you've gotta just wait and see what comes up, and can't stress too much about it yet. If your baby is anything like mine, they'll mostly be playing with crumpled up paper and wooden spoon and cardboard boxes for the first year anyway. I personally think it's healthy for babies of any gender to play imaginative play type stuff like play with dolls, play house, etc as well as to build with blocks and climb trees and whatever else boys are supposed to do, and I would happily defend those ideas to anybody if necessary. II also recognize that my kid will grow up to have his own preferences and I do t even know what those will be yet. I also think if you need a good quip about boys playing with dolls, telling someone he's practicing to be a good father some day seems like an expedient line, even if it doesn't totally represent your views about gender.

3. I think this is overhyped! In the first few months when he peed more frequently and unpredictably, I frequently put a wipe it clean diaper over him while in the midst of the changing process. Now that hardly seems necessary. He does sometimes manage to pee on his clothes in the middle of a diaper change, but has yet to pee a true fountain of pee. It's not like he's peeing in my face or all over our house.


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1. Circumcision is not the standard here, but my sister lives in the US and didn't circumcise her son and I don't think it was a big deal to anyone. Also, you could point out that the kid can always change his mind when he is older and get circumcised if *he* wants to.

2. My oldest son's favourite colour is pink and he got his face painted last week with a big pink butterfly on it and everyone at the fundraiser was nice about it and a few people commented that it was cute that he likes pink. He also has a pink girls bicycle (we were given a bike and helmet for free that happened to be pink) and nobody has been poopy about it. He also wants to get married in a big beautiful dress and has talked about marrying both (specific) boys and girls. (I love to imagine him marrying his (female, mid-40s) speech teacher whilst wearing a big pink dress.) Also, he likes football (soccer), heavy metal, and politics and wants to be a train driver, so it's not all pink and dresses.
(I mean, I wanted to be Indiana Jones *and* a maharani (Indian queen) when I was little and I also loved science, maths and light jazz.)

3. Not a huge deal at all! Pee fountains are preferable to rocket poo. What's rocket poo, you ask? Exactly what it sounds like. Did you know liquid poop can shoot out of a baby's butt for well over a meter in distance? Also, projectile barfing. Pee is a nice clean smelling, easy to wipe off liquid. Don't worry about the pee. XD

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 Post subject: Re: The Playground randomness thread
PostPosted: Mon Oct 10, 2016 9:51 am 
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1. I'm having a hard time imagining someone who isn't changing your baby's diapers caring about their genitals (beyond: "is it a boy or a girl?"). This feels like not a thing anymore, particularly out west.

2. Yes, boys are going to get more flak for liking "girl" stuff than girls are going to get for liking "boy" stuff. Thus is the patriarchy. Worrying about it won't change that. Buy your kid a baby doll, no matter their sex. It's good for them.

3. I don't have any kids with penises, but surely this is the kind of thing that can be figured out on the job, so to speak. I never changed a newborn's diaper until I had a newborn. These are really not things you need to prepare for. You will definitely be peed on, pooped on, and barfed on, no matter your child's anatomy. It's all a wonderful adventure in bodily fluids.

4. The sex is going to be a "surprise" whether you find out nor or you find out at birth. So do what makes you more comfortable. I'll say in favor of not finding out that it lessens the gender expectations you have to deal with in the first bit of their life - people can't buy you gendered toys and clothes and such if they don't know the sex in advance.


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The pee fountain was mostly a joke. :) And yes I've heard of poo sprays. I've heard of my own poo sprays. My mom probably felt it was birth control (it didn't work well for long, apparently).

The main thing is the boy with any feminity = you are bad parents thing. Mostly because there is a transfeminine influence in the kid's life. So people will probably be weirder than with most households with a slightly feminine boy. It just gives me a lot of anxiety worrying about it. I'm scared that either way, if this kiddo is assigned male, masculinity is going to be forced to such an extreme. Because you gotta counteract it, apparently.

My maternal grandpa already said that "if it's a boy [he'll] teach him how to be a real man" so there's that.

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The main thing is the boy with any feminity = you are bad parents thing. Mostly because there is a transfeminine influence in the kid's life. So people will probably be weirder than with most households with a slightly feminine boy. It just gives me a lot of anxiety worrying about it. I'm scared that either way, if this kiddo is assigned male, masculinity is going to be forced to such an extreme. Because you gotta counteract it, apparently.

This must vary wildly because 2 of my 3 boys are pretty feminine in one way or another (nearly everybody thinks Raygold is a girl at first) and I've never worried, have never gotten flack for it, and no one's tried to change them:

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I'm not trying to downplay your worries, just trying to reassure you that it's not all doom and gloom and rocket poos. :D

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OMG TCC I love that photo.


I agree with pretty much everything everyone has already said.

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Doom and gloom and rocket poos.
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People always have an annoying opinion on your parenting choices. You should just accept it and think about your stock phrases to get rid of them quickly. That's my annoying opinion :)


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