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For me there is a difference in the words "I don't want" and "shouldn't have." I feel like there are a lot of judgments that society puts on the decision to have children, including who *should* have them and who *shouldn't* and at the end of the day, its important to respect everyone's choice. There is a lot of casual ageism around the decision to have children past 35, and I've heard it, even from friends of mine (and of course its always interesting that the mother's age is the issue not so much the father's age (unless we're talking Tony Randall).

There are many things that I don't want - I don't want to have 5 kids, I didn't want to have children in my 20s, I didn't want to have a child without being financially stable but I wouldn't phrase them as *shouldn'ts.*

And with certain things, I would worry about offending others, even with an "I don't want..." statement. For example, I wouldn't say, even hypothetically, that I wouldn't want to have a child without being married to the father, because I feel like that might offend several people here, because it is in some ways placing a judgment on their relationships, even if you're not directly judging them, if that makes sense.

Anyway, not trying to hijack the thread.

i certainly didnt mean it that way that women shouldnt have kids in their 40s. and i definitely apologize if you took it that way.
one of the things i believe most in life is not to judge other people because ive never been in their situation.

i meant i didnt think it was the right choice for me personally to wait that long and when i was typing "physically cant" i realized that technically i physically still could. i just think for me personally it's not the right decision.

again huge apologies if i inadvertantly offended anyone, it's 100% not my business what people do in their life or when they choose to have kids. was only speaking for myself

It seems like the ppk is one of the few places where people acknowledge the feelings of strangers. It's nice.

Carlos' routine is basically putting on a giant diaper then swaddling him, sometime after 8:30. I think we need to work in a bath to that routine eventually.