so BP has 2.5 days of preschool under her belt.
i knew this transition was going to be hard but didnt expect HOW hard it was going to be. the weeks leading up to school were awful. she had rampant crazy food related meltdowns. there was a good week of nothing but screaming and being unable to eat.
the actual first day of school went ok. i got her out of the house without kicking and screaming and she did ok there. she absolutely hands down refuses to wash her hands there which is a big problem. she's afraid of public bathrooms and i dont think she understands the little bathroom there is basically the same as our house.
we missed snacktime and outside time because of the hand washing stand off (it was a shortened day for the first day) but otherwise she did fine there. couple small tears during transitions from one thing to another but no worse than some of the other kids and definitely not the worst of the kids at transitions.
day 2 i had to drag her out of the house kicking and screaming and fighting me. it was awful. she calmed down in the car after about 10 minutes (its a 30ish minute drive there) because i gave her my phone to watch videos of beluga whales. once at school she did ok. it was a low key day and i spent a long time in a corner with her reading books because that's ok because she was there and doing fine and doing it at her pace. they found some dinos specifically for her and they had emailed me the night before asking me how i felt the first day was and any strategies for her (they are aware of all her issues) and the solution we came up with for hand washing was using wipes for now while trying to slowly get her into the bathroom then washing her hands there.
they told me i can sit with her on a bench there to have a snack if im having trouble feeding her before we get there and she needs something.
she would not sit at the table with the other kids for snacktime. that didnt surprise me at all. 10 other kids plus food = WAY TOO MUCH FOR CHARLOTTE. i sat at a seperate table with her and fed her yogurt with only minor meltdowns. i considered that a success. afterwards is outside time and she did AWESOME. she got to the point where she was running around by herself having fun and playing. it was great.
afterwards i told her we were done with school for the week and told her the other things that happen each day (things she is already used to) and i think im going to make a weekly schedule for her with pictures so she knows what to expect.
i was dreading this morning and there were some protests and tears but i actually got her out of the house without kicking and screaming and she was fine in the car.
she was a little sniffly this morningbut i thought it was allergies. she has inherited some of my ragweed allergies and has had issues on and off lately.
she did GREAT there today. she found a couple toys she was really into and stayed with them for quite a bit. and started engaging with the teachers a bit more and even went to do an art project with one of the teachers.
the longer we were there though the more i realized it wasnt allergies and she was actually coming down with a cold. after the art project she started coughing a bit and her nose was runny and i could tell she was about to meltdown (she refused to eat before we left) and she should no longer be there because i didnt want her spreading her germs around. so we left. i think i picked the right time to leave because she had had a really positive experience that morning but, man it's SO FRUSTRATING. i deal with so much shiitake just getting her to places and getting her comfortable to have it interrupted when it's going well is SO FRUSTRATING. though i know it's super common for kids to constantly get sick when they either start daycare or school but still AHHHHHH.
so we will probably miss tomorrow as well because she is a hot mess now that ive gotten her home. she feels like she's a thousand degrees, she refuses to eat or drink anything, refuses to let me take her temp, refuses to let me do saline spray, etc.
i did manage to get her asleep to nap though.
her meltdowns over the past few days have abated a bit. they are not at the level they were so i think we are moving forward.
here's our version of a first day of school pichttps://www.instagram.com/p/BKQrYc7hgYw/?taken-by=lisapunk
this was today painting with marbles before we lefthttps://www.instagram.com/p/BKjCOITBNdv/?taken-by=lisapunk