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 Post subject: Talking to Toddlers about Companion Animal Injuries?
PostPosted: Tue Sep 10, 2013 1:42 pm 
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Any advice for talking to a 22 month old about hurt companion animals?

Our cat was attacked by our neighbor's dogs and was pretty badly chewed up. He is coming home from the vet today but really looks pretty bad (his hindquarters are shaved and you can see multiple deep puncture wounds and he has lost a tooth).

Leela has been very worried about him, even when we didn't know the full extent of his injuries, and now its going to be even more apparent that he is hurt. We are going to be giving him medicine and he is expected to make a full recovery, though it will take a lot of TLC. He escaped from our house and snuck into the neighbor's yard, and is really lucky my husband happened to be home and willing to throw himself between two dogs (one is over 90lbs) to save our cat (my hero ♥).

Any idea how to talk to her without minimizing how hurt he is while also not scaring her? She is very gentle and loving with him, so I am not worried about her being too rough, but she tends to have a lot of sympathy when others are hurt, and I don't want her being freaked out more than necessary. I thought this was an interesting article about building empathy: http://evolutionaryparenting.com/is-she-okay/ It talks about not saying "Oh she's okay" and minimizing the hurt another is feeling.

Thank you in advance!

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 Post subject: Re: Talking to Toddlers about Companion Animal Injuries?
PostPosted: Tue Sep 10, 2013 1:58 pm 
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I would just tell her the truth that he got hurt, daddy saved him (kids DIG THAT! superhero dad! go brett!) and the dr. said he will be all better with rest and medicine. It shouldn't freak her out, in my opinion. Talk about how she has gotten hurt in the past and how she is all better now and how she has taken medicine in the past and how it made her all better and that the same for her goes for the cats and that he will get all better.

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 Post subject: Re: Talking to Toddlers about Companion Animal Injuries?
PostPosted: Tue Sep 10, 2013 3:30 pm 
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i responded in the other thread, but sum up: keep it positive, it's good for kids to see us taking care of our family members.

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 Post subject: Re: Talking to Toddlers about Companion Animal Injuries?
PostPosted: Tue Sep 10, 2013 5:19 pm 
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So sorry about your kitty! That's awful.

Is Leela at the kiss things and make them better stage yet? Right now V is BIG into this - when she detects that we're hurt, she will go over and offer a kiss. So maybe you could emphasize being gentle and she could (lightly!!!!) kiss the kitty to make him "feel better"? If you feed your cat treats, maybe she could give him one once in a while?

I wouldn't worry about it too much, personally. I would explain what happened in simple but truthful terms. Kids are resilient. But we haven't been through something exactly like this so what do I know...


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 Post subject: Re: Talking to Toddlers about Companion Animal Injuries?
PostPosted: Tue Sep 10, 2013 6:42 pm 
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Similar to what annak said, but can you involve her at all in the healing process? So that you're being clear that your cat is hurt, but emphasising what you're doing to make him better, whether that's in cuddles/gentle attention or if Leela can help in any small way with giving the medicine (for example if it's something that you add to food or similar)? I always think that being honest about the pain/hurt whilst at the same time showing ways that someone can help is a good way to approach it.

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