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 Post subject: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
PostPosted: Tue Aug 04, 2015 9:14 am 
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So I have accepted a new job in another state and now I am starting to think about moving...how does one do this with two tiny people underfoot who need so much stuff? We are going to do a U-Haul (probably). I am interested in anybody's moving experiences with kids - what tips you might have on making things smoother.

I am particularly wondering what people do about sleeping arrangements. What do you do in a motel with two children who fall out of bed on the regular? Neither will sleep in a port-a-crib. I sleep on a mattress on the floor that is pushed up next the wall currently so nobody can fall out - but in a motel?! An entertainment during the days...and what do you do on moving day when all the stuff is being carried out?

I am probably making a bigger deal out of this then it needs to be - but moving as a single adult was a huge ordeal - so moving a whole family is super daunting to me.


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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
PostPosted: Tue Aug 04, 2015 11:47 am 
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I bet it's really common to dump kids off with their grandparents during the move and pick them up after. It sounds like some rough days of travel. Wish I had some advice. Good luck.


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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
PostPosted: Tue Aug 04, 2015 3:52 pm 
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No advice on the moving part, but I have slept in hotel rooms with kids who roll off beds and are too big for portacribs. We've always just put pillows on the floor by the edge of the bed and hope for the best. Most hotel rooms have carpet if kid misses the pillows....


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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
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how about sleeping bags on the floor? not the most comfortable night but it sounds like maybe it's not going to be a comfortable night anyways.

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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
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can you request a cot and put the mattress on the floor? I think that would be the easiest option and maybe kind of fun for the kids too.

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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
PostPosted: Tue Aug 04, 2015 8:05 pm 
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the cot on the floor is a GREAT idea Torque! If we didn't sleep on it - it could be used as the roll-on-to- thing on the floor! Thanks!


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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
PostPosted: Tue Aug 04, 2015 8:15 pm 
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I hate trying to sleep in a hotel room with a toddler since they go to bed so much earlier than I want to. I've sat on the floor in the bathroom before just to read my book! If you can get some kind of suite or a room with some kind of divided space that makes things easier.

As far as falling off the bed, you can roll up a towel and tuck under the fitted sheet to create a bumper. I also just put pillows on the floor and hope for the best.

A fridge is amazing to have. I like to make overnight oats in hotel room with a mini fridge.


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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
PostPosted: Tue Aug 04, 2015 10:21 pm 
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And hotel beds are always so high off the floor! We get a room with two beds, I sleep on the outside, toddler in the middle, and pillows on the other side. For some reason pillows stop my kid from rolling past. Now that we have another baby I'm not sure what we'll do..


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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
PostPosted: Wed Aug 05, 2015 8:45 am 
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Butternut wrote:
I hate trying to sleep in a hotel room with a toddler since they go to bed so much earlier than I want to. I've sat on the floor in the bathroom before just to read my book! If you can get some kind of suite or a room with some kind of divided space that makes things easier..


No worries about this...my husband was still wresting with the 3 year old at 11:30 last night trying to get him to sleep...my kids are night owls!


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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
PostPosted: Wed Aug 05, 2015 10:18 am 
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Will you have any help loading and unloading the truck? If you do, it's probably easier if one of you takes the kids out, and the other directs the movers.

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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
PostPosted: Wed Aug 05, 2015 11:27 am 
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Yes - we will have help for the load/unload. Going out is probably a wise choice. I can just see someone getting crushed under a fridge.


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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
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We just did a cross-country move and then a cross-state move with my kiddo. We had movers do the actual move, so that made it a bit easier than the U-Haul situation. Mostly, one of us took Phineas out of the house somewhere while the other attended to the moving stuff. It took way longer than having two people do the work, but I can't imagine that Phineas would have been anything but underfoot. If you can afford some help with either packing or loading the truck, it will definitely be worth the money. It took my husband several days to pack on his own and a full day to unpack (and he basically just randomly shoved things into closets or it would have taken longer).

As far as sleeping in hotels, we stick Phineas between us in the bed or do pillows on one side if only one of us fits in the bed. (In a related story, why is it so hard to get a hotel room with anything other than 2 double beds?) I have a book-light for reading in bed after Phineas is asleep, which I mostly use for travel situations.

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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
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Our move is coming up in just a couple weeks and despite us talking about it for months, tiny wu pretty much just grasped it. It's always felt tricky to me to emphasize the permanence and distance of it (remember, we are leaving Denmark and heading to California) without being mean. For instance, we might say it was our last time at such and such a place, and TW would come back with, "yeah, but we can come back and visit.". Well, not really, but Mr Scandi, who is keen to avoid conflicts, always replied with "that would uld be really fun!"

I didn't really want to be the harsh realist saying, look, we are provably never going to go there again, this is goodbye FOR REAL.

Contributing to the confusion, TW has a little ex-pat friend whose extended family happens to live near-ish to our new home. They are planning a long trip home for the holidays and we've arranged to get together. So TW has been convinced that she and best friend will still visit all the time. This weekend we had a going away party which kind of got the wheels turning for TW. At breakfast this morning she said, "I will go live in my new house and E will come visit me. When? On Friday?". I told her no, it would be about 100 days after we leave. She cried a little, saying "But E is my best friend and I love him! 100 days is too long!"

So she gets it now. And I'm glad it's sinking in, but it's heartbreaking at the same time.


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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
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i dont have any advice but i just wanted to say good luck on the big move! moving that far to a different country must be stressful even before adding kids in.

good luck! tiny wu sounds like such a smart kid im sure she will figure it out

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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
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Yes good luck on the move!!

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 Post subject: Re: Moving with toddlers and preschoolers
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Our move is coming up in just a couple weeks and despite us talking about it for months, tiny wu pretty much just grasped it. It's always felt tricky to me to emphasize the permanence and distance of it (remember, we are leaving Denmark and heading to California) without being mean. For instance, we might say it was our last time at such and such a place, and TW would come back with, "yeah, but we can come back and visit.". Well, not really, but Mr Scandi, who is keen to avoid conflicts, always replied with "that would uld be really fun!"

I didn't really want to be the harsh realist saying, look, we are provably never going to go there again, this is goodbye FOR REAL.

Contributing to the confusion, TW has a little ex-pat friend whose extended family happens to live near-ish to our new home. They are planning a long trip home for the holidays and we've arranged to get together. So TW has been convinced that she and best friend will still visit all the time. This weekend we had a going away party which kind of got the wheels turning for TW. At breakfast this morning she said, "I will go live in my new house and E will come visit me. When? On Friday?". I told her no, it would be about 100 days after we leave. She cried a little, saying "But E is my best friend and I love him! 100 days is too long!"

So she gets it now. And I'm glad it's sinking in, but it's heartbreaking at the same time.


I moved to a new house with my 5 year old last fall. I was super worried about how he'd handle it, and I'm sure it varies with every kid, but in the end it wasn't so bad. Granted, we only moved an hour away in the same state but I thought for SURE he would cry at his last day in the house but he didn't at all. He took it in stride. He still sometimes says he misses our old yellow kitchen and his friends but nothing too serious. I think kids are very resilient at this age.

My advise would be to definitely be truthful, but not focus TOO much on how this is the last time she'll see such and such, and it is too far to visit. I think it will sink in for her in stages, over time and then you can address it but at this age, I wouldn't try to "prepare" her for it. She doesn't have a frame of reference for how it will go, so I don't think she'd even be able to understand until she goes through it and processes it in her own way. Not that I'm being critical - I went through the same questions myself and I learned it was better not to dwell on it and focus on the positive as much as possible.

Also, one thing we totally lucked out that really helped here, is the day we moved in our neighbors came over and introduced themselves, and luckily had a son the same age. It was actually Halloween that day so they let us go trick or treating with them. That way, my son was so excited about his new friends he didn't have to worry about the old. I know everyone won't be that lucky, and I don't know if you already have contacts or family in Cali, but if not maybe you could look up a mom group or some kind of activity for her to do so she has something to look forward to right away.

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