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my own doctor is a family practice doctor so i literally called during my 3rd trimester and was like "im pregnant do you guys see babies?" "do i need to like do anything before she's born?" "no?" "ok cool."

my dr did not have priviledges at the hospital i delivered at because the hospital was like 20 mins away and my dr is in the town i live in but i personally wasnt concerned about that. the hospital had a level 3 NICU so i knew the hospital pedi would be fine to examine her post birth.

i would ask their thoughts on vaccines to see if it's inline with what you think. for example after BP's 2 month appt which was her first with vax she had a mild reaction but it was enough for me to break the future shots up over 2 appts each time. my dr is open to talking about each vax and answering my questions.

ask what their hours are and what you can do when you need to call them off hours and who answers those calls and what do you do when your kid gets sick on a weekend.

between splitting the vax up over a couple appts, taking BP in once a month during the winter months for the RSV shot (she gets it because she has a heart condition) and normal frequency of baby appts they know who i am at the drs office and they are always very accessible to me, im not one who calls the dr willy nilly because my mom is a nurse so i never really went to the dr as a kid but on the occasion i do need to call them they are always there to answer my questions. i usually speak with the medical assistant and they always get back to me if they need to consult the actual dr.

if you go somewhere and you feel like they dont have time for you or to answer your questions then keep looking.

some people might prefer specifically to use a pediatrician who only sees kids as opposed to a family practice dr who sees all ages because then they exclusively deal only with kids and kids issues and are probably more flexible and understanding about getting kids in ASAP when they are sick. the family practice schedules i think are a little less flexible.
ive had good luck and am happy with my family practice doc but i remember when we took BP home from the hospital they nurses like practically didnt let us leave the hospital and were like YOU GET HER AN APPT WITHIN THE NEXT TWO DAYS because of the stupid hearing test crapola. (she was fine) and when i called they couldnt get her in as early as the nurses at the hospital made it seem like she needed.

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My main question was specific to us having a home birth so it sounds like that doesn't apply to you, but if anyone is I would recommend asking if they have ever taken care of babies who were born at home and are aware that midwives provide well baby care for the first month. Most pediatricians are really uncomfortable with not seeing a baby asap after birth so I wanted to make sure they would be okay with that. I also asked (in an open-ended way) what their position is on families who don't vaccinate on schedule because I wanted to know if my baby would be in a waiting room with a lot of unvaccinated kids. I wasn't as concerned with the parenting style things because I didn't really care what my pediatrician's opinion was of breastfeeding and bed sharing; those were our plan regardless of their opinion and I had plenty of support from my midwives if I needed it.


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I didn't ask about hospital privileges, but wish I had. I just assumed that we wouldn't have any issues, but when L had jaundice it turns out there are different ways to handle it. The hospital ped was very conservative and wouldn't release L to us, where our pediatrician was ready to just get us a script for a bili blanket. But without privileges, there was nothing we could do and L and I were trapped in the hospital (because they threatened to call child protective services on us if we left AMA, even if we were going to go home and be straight under our own pediatrician's care).

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Yes, ^ that's why hospital privileges are important. I don't know if we would've been in a position of needing to stay longer at the hospital with the injury if our own pediatrician hadn't been there and already scheduled a follow-up in two days with us, let alone if there was anything actually wrong. Also, the thing with a hospital pediatrician is that you may have very little access to them, even in the hospital, and then basically no access to them afterward. I was able to ask about the tests they had done on her in the hospital when we were comfortably settled back home and I had more of my wits about me. For a totally normal birth and no health complications for the baby, none of this matters, but then sometimes it does!

Privileges at the hospital you would choose for hospitalization should your child become ill later I think is really important, though.

mooo's point about knowing the vaccination status of other patients is a good one; like, I certainly wouldn't go to a doctor who doesn't generally advocate for on-schedule vaccination. Although I don't know of any pediatricians in this area who turn down patients who don't vaccinate/don't vaccinate on schedule (nor do I support turning down patients for that reason, even though I am pro- on-schedule vaccination in general), so the determinant is more likely to be simply how anti-vax our neighborhood is.


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LisaPunk wrote:
some people might prefer specifically to use a pediatrician who only sees kids as opposed to a family practice dr who sees all ages because then they exclusively deal only with kids and kids issues and are probably more flexible and understanding about getting kids in ASAP when they are sick. the family practice schedules i think are a little less flexible.


This didn't even occur to me! The medical group I'm a member of has physicians who list family practice as a specialty so I was surprised to learnt there were no pediatricians. The group I am meeting with tomorrow is only pediatricians.


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mooo's point about knowing the vaccination status of other patients is a good one; like, I certainly wouldn't go to a doctor who doesn't generally advocate for on-schedule vaccination. Although I don't know of any pediatricians in this area who turn down patients who don't vaccinate/don't vaccinate on schedule (nor do I support turning down patients for that reason, even though I am pro- on-schedule vaccination in general), so the determinant is more likely to be simply how anti-vax our neighborhood is.


Ariann and mooo, that was a big concern for us too. These doctors do actually turn away patients who refuse to vaccinate (though they will work with altered schedules when necessary). While this might not be a selling point for some people, it was for me.

My last bloodwork showed that my rubella immunity has worn off so I'm basically contemplating living in a hamster ball for the next few months. There have been several cases of measles in my county in the last few weeks - I know it's not the same thing as rubella but I have to confess that it makes me worried in general. I have no idea what my immediate neighborhood's vaccination status is.


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I haven't done any interviews (we move so much it's hardly worth it, we're about to start seeing our 4th pediatrician) but switched out of the military system because we didn't get along that well with the pediatric dept in the hospital (i'm not sure it was specifically the pediatrician, the entire staff was very set in their ways and overreactive. We've had good luck with two out of three so far..


ETA: We had an experience not altogether dissimilar from Tlish's surrounding jaundice, only we threw a tantrum and won in the end, though "winning" entailed using the bili blanket and then driving 17 miles each way to the hospital every day for a weigh in while they switched to freaking out about V's weight instead of the bili levels, which had come down quickly.

It probably helped to be white, upper middle class, educated, and the same military rank as the doctor. I really hate that the way we were treated notably changed between when they mistakenly wrote my husband down as a jr army lieutenant and when they fixed that to his correct rank.


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the points about hospital priviledges has made me rethink our experience. i dont think i would have changed anything as im happy with my dr and the hospital i gave birth at was the one i wanted to give birth at but i do think it woul dhave made our lives ALOT easier in hindsight.
i have to imagine most babies are born and go home without much fuss but we have three examples here of different issues where having your own pedi have priviledges would have mad elife easier.

in MA all newborns have to go through a newborn hearing screening, it's state mandated. since BP was so tiny the earmuff style headphones didnt fit her head properly and she failed twice in one ear by the tiniest razor thin margin and you only get two shots and then you get a fail.

i guess failing can either be a sign of hearing issues or potentially some sort of virus that is really easy to treat but you want to get it right away. so basically they wanted my 5 lbs baby who was still doped up on the effects of the magnesium IV i had been on for a week and was trying to figure out bfing to pee a certain amount and it needed to like collect in this specific spot in her diaper. YEAH RIGHT. it might not have been such a big deal if i hadnt already been in the hospital for a week with preeclampsia and literally climbing the walls. also i hated the post partum nurses. i loved the labor and delivery staff but i hated the pp staff.

the hospital kept saying in order to get her released without completing the test we had to call our own pedi and get permission.
our pedi did not even know i was pregnant and that she was getting a new patient and it was sunday. we made them find the last pedi who had seen her and call her at home. IT TOOK FOREVER and we had to put up a major fight about it and almost left against medical advice which is always bad news.

we had to go to a follow up appt with an audiologist like 6 weeks later where she passed with flying colors because they had better equipment and im still fighting with the state and the hospital a year later why i should have to pay for the follow up appt i didnt think she needed and was state mandated.

also the stupid thing was they gave us such shiitake over the hearing test but barely mentioned her heart murmur which DID end up being an issue.

as far as family practice vs pedi i am very happy with our family practice dr but i think if i didnt already have a history with her specifically i might have sought out a pedi. medically the quality of care i dont think has been any different but a couple of times things have come up and she was like "let me see what we're supposed to do in this situation i havent had to do this in a long time" and went off to research something or figure out who to call just because she doesnt deal exclusively with kids every single day. but again im very happy with my choice overall.

also one last thing just popped into my head. here in MA we have a couple big hospital systems and we are part of the UMASS hospital system. i gave birth at a UMASS hospital my dr office is affiliated with UMASS the local hospital is a UMASS affiliated hospital, the audiologist and geneticist we went to were all UMASS drs. it makes life easier cause everything is in one big computer system so whereever we go they can pull up all her records regardless of the appt. the only dr we go to that i dont think is a UMASS dr is her cardiologist but funnily enough there office is directly behind the UMASS branch i gave birth at.
certainly not a deal breaker but i think a benefit to weigh.

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LP, when E's pediatrician met us for the first time and was going through my health history & family health history list, he pretty much said "soooooooo you're passing some awesome asparagus genes along eh." Solipsistnation's family is pretty healthy overall so I just have to hope they mostly got stuff from his side.


I hope he meant that you're passing along the genes of your awesome asparagus.

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Thanks for all your input, everyone! I just got back from the interview and I feel really good about this group. I can check one more thing off the list!


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My main question was specific to us having a home birth so it sounds like that doesn't apply to you, but if anyone is I would recommend asking if they have ever taken care of babies who were born at home and are aware that midwives provide well baby care for the first month. Most pediatricians are really uncomfortable with not seeing a baby asap after birth so I wanted to make sure they would be okay with that. I also asked (in an open-ended way) what their position is on families who don't vaccinate on schedule because I wanted to know if my baby would be in a waiting room with a lot of unvaccinated kids. I wasn't as concerned with the parenting style things because I didn't really care what my pediatrician's opinion was of breastfeeding and bed sharing; those were our plan regardless of their opinion and I had plenty of support from my midwives if I needed it.


Hm, I never even considered that! I should have asked when I was there for Sven's appointments while I was pregnant. But we already had an established relationship with our pediatrician when Edie was born at home. When I called to make her two-month appointment they were a bit confused about where she had gotten care previously, but Austin (and I'm sure their practice) is full of homebirthers so they were just like, "oh, okay, just have her fax the records."

Another thing that might be worth asking at any point is if your kid would be allowed to wait in an exam room rather than the waiting room, even if there are separate sick and well waiting rooms. We interviewed one pediatrician that did that to keep kids from getting sick (which always seems to happen to us when we go for well visits!) and I thought it was kind of cool. Whenever there is something like norovirus going around town I ask my current pedi to let us isolate ourselves.


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We went to the military treatment facility after a home birth for pediatricians and not only was it kind of a pain to schedule quickly after the birth because of military bureaucracy (they insisted she be in the personnel database before even seeing her, so it was a hassle right after the birth and we didn't get into the ped's until 48 hours after she was born), but they were indeed awfully judgmental and skeptical of home births. Especially with the jaundice situation, we got a lot of "this OTHER home birth couple just the other day waited FIVE DAYS before coming in with their SEVERELY JAUNDICED baby and you're all IRRESPONSIBLE FOOLS!" (V's numbers were never that bad and we made the earliest appointment we possibly could with them. We still had to fight their preexisting prejudices, and as I've stated elsewhere, without an existing set of cultural privileges we probably would have been treated very differently throughout the process)


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I am streaming music while I work (as I usually do) and a song from the CD that I had on repeat for the 4+ hours of active labor came on and YEEP! my body just responded. all the hairs on my body stood up and i think my uterus just barfed. 15 years later! Don't choose anything you like too much!

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haha Torque, that's kind of awesome [though sad a song you liked has been ruined!]
Westiebaby was born while I was listening to Pink Floyd Animals, and she loved it when I would put that on when she was wee.

On the doctor questions above, I find that so interesting - is it really common to see a specialist pediatrician so soon after birth even with no issues or concerns? I only know one friend who has ever taken their child to a pediatrician, and that's after he was not crawling by 15 months and fell off the bottom of the height and weight charts. Standard practice here is for baby to first see a GP at six weeks, then after that only when they are sick or you are concerned about anything.


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well, luckily it was not one of my favorites. god knows i haven't played that whole album in the 15 years since!!! (it was a good dinner party one too, Ryuichi Sakamoto, 1996? nice piano music.)

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I don't think most Americans think of pediatricians as being specialists. Some kids see a general practitioner, but it's pretty common for kids to see a pediatrician just because it's more convenient. They're more likely to have separate well/sick wait rooms, special equipment for tiny people, nurses used to giving shots to scared kids. And there's sometimes an associated lab where kids can get blood drawn from a finger prick rather than a vein in their arm.

Here most hospitals (if you do a hospital birth) won't release a baby until the baby has a doctor. It can be either a pediatrician or a GP. And you'll likely have a follow up appointment with that doctor in a few days or weeks, depending on the baby and on state regulations. If you give birth with a midwife, baby might see the midwife for the first few visits.


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People who've given birth/birth partners, how did you keep family informed about what was going on while you were at the hospital/birthing center/your living room? Or did you even provide updates at all?

Some family members have problems respecting boundaries, so we're trying to figure out a plan so that everyone can share in the excitement without overwhelming us.


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Karl and I each just texted our family (I actually just did my sister at first because it was the middle of the night, US time and she worked the late shift). A couple of friends who've given birth recently had a special FB group made where they added people who they wanted to share updates with (people who wouldn't add pressure/stress). It was really nice as we could post encouraging messages and the partners could pass them along if the momma to be wasn't online. The first friend had a pretty long labor, so there were lots of posts of encouragement and love. The second friend's labor was quick, but she was able to post about going to the hospital/water breaking. Definitely something I'd try if we have baby #2.


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wow mollyjade's question suddenly made me teary-eyed, 'cause I remembered how after my c-section with Dahlia, I was put in this awful glorified-hallway-with-curtained-cubicles after coming out of the O/R and my oldest brother showed up as I was laying in there by myself crying.

ANYway, I was induced that 1st time and I can't remember if we told anyone when I went in to the hospital for that. I do know that once the induction started working and I was in active but slow-progressing labor for a few hours, we called my aunt, who had really wanted to be in the waiting room for the birth as my only really local family member. She came in and chatted with us and the midwife for a while and as I've mentioned before, told random stories about being shaved for a surgery via a rusty razor in India. That was so forking weird. I saw her after the operation for a few minutes so she could see the baby, and she was the one who ended up calling my brother in NJ as well as my parents on the west coast. Long before the birth I had this intense desire to not really be bothered during it and I was glad that no one really interfered with that. I did text a lot of people later that night when I was settled but didn't want visitors or anything. I guess it was really different than, say, my sister-in-law who had both my mom and her mom in the room with her while in labor; the way sis-in-law spoke to me about it, she felt like she "owed" it to them to be there which I thought was super weird.

the 2nd time around, everything seemed like it progressed really quickly and other people were the furthest thing from my mind. I called my family, who happened to be all gathered at a Mother's Day thing at my parents' house, pretty soon after coming out of the O/R while holding my baby. My partner called his sister and dad at the same time and that was it. I think it really depends on the type of person you are and the type of relationships you have with your family - in my case I would probably describe my relationship with my brothers, sisters and parents as definitely cordial but not super-close.


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On pediatricians - we saw ours at 5 days, 2 weeks (special visit to check up on Erb's Palsy from birth), 1 month (possibly also a special visit, hard to remember), 2 months (first round of vax), 3, 4, 5, 6, 9, 12, 18, 24 and now it goes to yearly (and we can combine flu vaccine with yearly visit, because her birthday is in the early fall). At those visits they did weight, length, looked her over pretty thoroughly and kept tabs on her birth mark), looked in ears and eyes, and gave vaccinations according to the schedule. And then answered any of our questions - that was the most helpful part of the visit, everything else (besides vax) seemed vaguely unnecessary. We also went in several other times due to illness, mostly an unhelpful experience (but what you might just ride out on your own as an adult you of course panic over when it's your kid). There is a LOT of routine doctoring of kids in the US. Our downstairs neighbors with three kids don't have a doctor, don't get vaccinated (depending on the day I'm not sure if it's due to laziness or principle), and only see a doctor when one of their kids needs stitches or a bone set. They have no idea what their kids weigh or how tall they are and don't care. So it's not like you can't figure out a way to opt out of the system, it's just definitely not the norm.


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We were in the hospital giving birth for three days, so were bored much of that time, called my sisters on the west coast a fair amount and my husband's local family a lot (but they did not come to the hospital until the day after she was born). My mother showed up two days into my hospital stay and wouldn't leave, so she was there (annoyingly) at the birth. It didn't seem to occur to anybody to be sitting in the waiting room while I was giving birth - they would've been sitting there a long asparagus time. I actually don't even know if there is a such a waiting room in that hospital; I definitely didn't see one. I also posted once to Facebook asking for prayers, but not giving significant details. If I wanted to keep a bunch of people informed, I'd probably create a mass text group, or if they're all on FB, a closed FB group.


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Ariann wrote:
On pediatricians - we saw ours at 5 days, 2 weeks (special visit to check up on Erb's Palsy from birth), 1 month (possibly also a special visit, hard to remember), 2 months (first round of vax), 3, 4, 5, 6, 9, 12, 18, 24 and now it goes to yearly (and we can combine flu vaccine with yearly visit, because her birthday is in the early fall). At those visits they did weight, length, looked her over pretty thoroughly and kept tabs on her birth mark), looked in ears and eyes, and gave vaccinations according to the schedule. And then answered any of our questions - that was the most helpful part of the visit, everything else (besides vax) seemed vaguely unnecessary. We also went in several other times due to illness, mostly an unhelpful experience (but what you might just ride out on your own as an adult you of course panic over when it's your kid). There is a LOT of routine doctoring of kids in the US. Our downstairs neighbors with three kids don't have a doctor, don't get vaccinated (depending on the day I'm not sure if it's due to laziness or principle), and only see a doctor when one of their kids needs stitches or a bone set. They have no idea what their kids weigh or how tall they are and don't care. So it's not like you can't figure out a way to opt out of the system, it's just definitely not the norm.


It seems to me that doctors in the US do a lot of the things nurses do here. My kid is three, and I think he's seen a doctor for routine appointments three or four times. Once or twice as a newborn before we left the hospital, and twice since then. A specialist nurse does the regular weighing, developmental tests and vaccinations.

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People who've given birth/birth partners, how did you keep family informed about what was going on while you were at the hospital/birthing center/your living room? Or did you even provide updates at all?

Some family members have problems respecting boundaries, so we're trying to figure out a plan so that everyone can share in the excitement without overwhelming us.


We called people and posted on facebook when it was over. Some of our family members would worry way too much if they felt it took too long or something! Besides, my husband hates phones and I was busy screaming.

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Some of our family members would worry way too much if they felt it took too long or something!

This is one of my worries. My mom's two births were both about four hours long and really easy. She pushed twice with me. And she has a tendency to verbally worry about worst case scenarios with very little cause. (Every headache I had as a kid was meningitis, and if my father is ever 15 minutes later than she expects, it's because he's had a heart attack.) I've already seen her freaking out about some of my friends' births on Facebook, with little to no actual information about the birth. And she's been telling me things like, "I'm certain you're not going to make it to 37 weeks." I don't want to be managing my mom's emotions, which seems to happen a lot in our relationship. I want the birthing room to be as calm as possible.

I also don't want people showing up at the hospital uninvited. (And again, by people, I mean my mother).


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BP also saw the dr several times after being released. the nurses at the hospital told me i needed to have an appt set up for her like IMMEDIATELY after she was released (they were annoying so whatever) and then BP went back again the 2nd week she was home which at the time i thought was standard but later when i got a bill for it (well baby visits usually are free) i learned she went back because she "wasnt gaining weight" which wasnt true but i think that was the general reason they gave for wanting to see a very tiny baby again which ended up being ok because the second visit is when the pedi said we should take her to a cardiologist just to be safe. after that she's followed the standard AMerican schedule. which i think was like every 3 months


as far as informing people while you're in the hospital i was in the hospital so long with nothing going on that i was texting people. once BP was finally born my husband called both sets of parents and i think they informed other family members.

the only thing i had my husband specify to my facebook oversharing MIL was that if she posted anything on facebook i would kill her (i was an angry pregnant lady)

i feel like hte birth of a child is a time when a partner who doesnt necessarily like using the phone is the time when they can suck it up and call their wive's parents. at least that's what i told my husband and he did it.

is it possible to like lay it on the line for your mom beforehand and tell her like specifically what will happen. if it's a long labor maybe your husband can text her every like 4-5 hours that things are fine or something???

i personally think it's totally ok for all the responsibility of that sort of stuff to be placed totally on the birthing partner while the woman is laboring. you aint got time or energy to be dealing with shiitake like that.

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