happy jo wrote:
We used to go to my Aunt's house for Thanksgiving. The last time we went my cousin was retching/heaving at the table because he pounded at least 12 beers in the hours before dinner. My Aunt was calmly asking him to leave the table and he just ignored her. My Uncle kept talking to me as if nothing was happening. It went on for like 5 minutes! Finally the cousin leaves the table to throw up and when he comes back he grabs another beer!! No one talks about it! It was so tense and I am not used to that and it is not the way I want to be on Thanksgiving. My husband and kids were just flabbergasted because we are the types to talk and have confrontations in the moment and not that this is the best way of handling things but ignoring is definitely not either. Ugh!
We now have a drama free, vegan friendly Thanksgiving at home and we don't have to get all stressed out!
You know, that sounds like some crazy stuff that would totally go on at my family's dinners. This time, it was my husbands cousins...and yes, I wanted so badly to ask her what was wrong, but her dad just ignored it and kept giving her "the look"...when she went to the bathroom for about the 10th time, I asked her dad if she was ok, and he just sort of got snappy and defensive with me...
I like your idea of just having it at your home...I think next year, that is what Im going to do. I LOVE Thanksgivng, but this year with family was just such a let down. Maybe its my fault for building it up too much. Last year was spent with friends, as we were living outside the country, and that was a lot more stress free and fun.
Why cant family be that way too??? They always seem to bring their issues to the table, so to speak.