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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Wed Oct 09, 2013 5:23 pm 
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saying no is okay, especially because not every no is a hard no.

wait, what?

unless you've otherwise agreed as such (safeword, etc) then 'no' should very much be 'no' without question. anyone that defies that is a croissant.

the omission of a 'yes' might still be a 'yes' though, if that's what you mean?

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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Wed Oct 09, 2013 5:35 pm 
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I read that as, sometimes "no" doesn't mean "no definitely not ever", but sometimes "not today" or "not like this but maybe like this"?

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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Wed Oct 09, 2013 5:47 pm 
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I read it as, sometimes someone may not say "no" forcefully, but it still means "no," and that "no" should be taken seriously.

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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Wed Oct 09, 2013 6:12 pm 
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I think Morgyn is on the right track, which makes more sense in the greater picture. I was just thinking about being in the moment

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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Wed Oct 09, 2013 10:46 pm 
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Morgyn is right. Sorry for the confusion.


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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Thu Oct 10, 2013 1:33 am 
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Yay for No's! And also yay for Yes's!

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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Thu Oct 10, 2013 2:07 am 
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Zactly Mars!

(Also, allularpunk? Beat your record last night. :P )

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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Thu Oct 10, 2013 9:54 am 
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(Also, allularpunk? Beat your record last night. :P )


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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Thu Oct 10, 2013 12:54 pm 
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Mars wrote:
Things that people do in porn are only in porn because they are things that people like and do, they wouldn't put stuff in porn that was something humans haven't already been doing. While I absolutely think that if someone does that, gets told how it's not cool, and then acts offended; of course that's bullshiitake behavior. But during sex, a lot of people find it very arousing to play with power/dominance, for a lot of people probably fairly subconsciously. That's a very big turn-on to many people, both the forcing of someone's body and the being forced. And since it sounds like their forcing of your head to their junk was not such that you couldn't fairly easily get out of it to tell them how you did not like that, it's not at the level where I personally think prior consent was necessarily needed. If they wanted to start doing it in a way that was rough then we definitely get into prior consent territory. I'm big into talking about things and getting consent as well, but I think when two people consent to have sex with each other to begin with, is it not expected that there's going to be some reasonable grabby excited hands? Just be okay with being told 'no' obviously, and respect that boundary once it's been made.

I personally love having my head forcibly & roughly pushed into one's crotch. And I also love doing it to my partner.


I agree with all this. I was just speaking that it's personal pet peeve of mine. I don't get offended if my partner does it once, but i'd be pretty peased off if they kept trying after i made clear that i'm not into that. That's totally cool that you and other people enjoy it!
I think the need for consent is something that varies between partners. I'm very picky about receiving oral sex, so the only time it happens is when either me or my partner asks first. However, i very rarely ask when i give my partner oral sex. It's understood that he's totally down with it. That's something we figured out awhile ago, so it's not necessary to ask every time. Someone voiced earlier in this thread about asking a lady if she wanted oral, and her response was something like "Duh, of course!" For her, it wouldn't be necessary to ask. But for me, it would.

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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Sat Oct 12, 2013 1:57 am 
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I would 100% of the time rather ask and have someone say "duh, of course!", than to not ask.

Likewise, I would 100% of the time want someone to ask me before doing something that I want them to do, rather than just assuming that I want them to do it, even if I actually do want them to do it. The idea that someone would do something sexual with me without being absolutely certain that they have my consent is a very quick way to make me not want to do something that I originally would have been very interested in doing had they just asked me first.

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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Sat Oct 12, 2013 10:16 am 
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I would 100% of the time rather ask and have someone say "duh, of course!", than to not ask.

Likewise, I would 100% of the time want someone to ask me before doing something that I want them to do, rather than just assuming that I want them to do it, even if I actually do want them to do it. The idea that someone would do something sexual with me without being absolutely certain that they have my consent is a very quick way to make me not want to do something that I originally would have been very interested in doing had they just asked me first.

Absolutely agree with all of this. This is what I wanted to say but couldn't manage to say succinctly.

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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Mon Oct 21, 2013 11:24 pm 
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The post-sex nap is a magical thing. No naps are more restful than the postcoital ones....

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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 10:59 am 
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The post-sex nap is a magical thing. No naps are more restful than the postcoital ones....



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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Sat Dec 28, 2013 10:56 am 
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So, I think this is the longest that I've ever had regular sex. Hormones are weird for a lot of reasons. Right now, it seems like they're weird for affecting my breasts. They seem .... different. Fuller, and heavier, even though the size is the same. Has that happened to anyone else? When it first started happening, I thought it might've been a side effect from my period (which is also different now), but afaik (or rather, can tell) it isn't.

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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Sat Jan 18, 2014 8:43 am 
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Today marks the end of my 10 month dry spell. Hello libido!


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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Sat Jan 18, 2014 3:22 pm 
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I can't remember if I mentioned this, but even though we're still only having sex every 2 weeks or so, it's been so much better than it was for a while. Unfortunately, our problem seems to have reversed - now I can orgasm but M can't. :( Hopefully we'll sort things out soon.

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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Sun Mar 09, 2014 8:53 pm 
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Guyyyyyyyysssssssssssss my libido is going crazy. After my break up a month ago, I wanted to go without for a while, like I was thinking... a good long while? I don't know really. But I can't. I've been masturbating like crazy but it doesn't satiate! Fucccckkkkk. I went onto my old website haunts but I'm feeling so 'meh' about the responses I get, nothing I feel like even remotely interests me. Dang blast it!

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 Post subject: Re: human sexual response
PostPosted: Wed Mar 19, 2014 2:44 am 
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Nothing to worry about ya'll, I got my 'situation' 'taken care of'. :} And it was.. quite! enjoyable!

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