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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
PostPosted: Fri Jan 17, 2014 10:06 am 
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Check me out! It's an anxiety-defying two-fer:

I'm on the bus (trigger #1, even though it has become manageable) on my way to meet a stranger (trigger #1.5) for some Korean/English conversation (trigger #ohmygod)!

What came over me? I tried to organize this for weeks because, like a dentist appointment, it's good for me. I think I need this.

Still, it's hard not to imagine how thrillingly awkward this could be.

Go you! How was it?!


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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
PostPosted: Fri Jan 17, 2014 10:26 am 
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fork me, I made a dentist appointment.

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PostPosted: Fri Jan 17, 2014 10:40 am 
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Yeah, FF! You got this!

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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
PostPosted: Fri Jan 17, 2014 12:21 pm 
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The thing went well. I wasn't very nervous, but did feel very, very awkward. It became apparent instantly that her English is 17 times better than my Korean (we have a special machine for measuring this), so we fell into almost a teacher-student situation that I didn't want. I'd say it was 85% English and 15% Korean. I think I'll do better (be more adventurous) next week. (!)

And talk about cool: she's a prosecutor in Korea!

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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
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jordanpattern wrote:
fork me, I made a dentist appointment.


I'm taking partial credit/blame for this because I mentioned dentist appointments.

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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
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FootFace wrote:
The thing went well. I wasn't very nervous, but did feel very, very awkward. It became apparent instantly that her English 17 is times better than my Korean (we have a special machine for measuring this), so we fell into almost a teacher-student situation that I didn't want. I'd say it was 85% English and 15% Korean. I think I'll do better (be more adventurous) next week. (!)

Oh, crepe. It's next week now! I'm actually going to do this again tonight!

Already nervous and a little dread-ful.

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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
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Way to go footy!
Damnit, I really need to call the dentist and make an appointment. And I have to make appointments for the kids too, I have been avoiding that for too long as well.

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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
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First off, I can't tell time. Or I can't tell calendar. The meet-up is scheduled for Thursday, which is tomorrow. Second, she just texted to postpone.

I am now unhappy.

About how relieved I feel.

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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
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So, she texted me this afternoon saying she could get together tomorrow (Saturday), but she won't be able to meet next Thursday.

First thought: If I say I can't go tomorrow, I'm off the hook for two weeks!

Second thought: Hmmm...

Third thought: Sure! Let's get together tomorrow.

Why is this so hard?

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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
PostPosted: Sat Jan 25, 2014 11:01 am 
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Third thought: Sure! Let's get together tomorrow.

Do it! Be an inspiration to us all!

Or don't. But be prepared to be prosecuted.


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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
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I'm waiting for the bus right now!

I really don't want to do this.

God, but I'm an inspiration.

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Done! We chatted for about an hour. I think if you added up all the time I was saying (or trying to say) something in Korean, it would come to about 4 minutes.

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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
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i tried setting up some friendship days today! i have a fear that people hate me and get nervous asking if people want to hang out. i emailed some people today! even if they say no it's not the end of the world right?

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Nope, not the end of the world. If they don't write back it's just some non-emails.

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i got my first no - but it's okay! it only means i might change my plans and go to the movies with my boyfriend!

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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
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Welp! I have decided to stop seeing my conversation partner. My Korean is still so limited that I don't think I was able to get much out of our sessions. It wasn't really worth the effort, the anxiety, or the hour on the bus. But we're parting on good terms, and it's not like either of us was very invested. Maybe I'll try again in the future, when I've learned enough to make it practical.

It's not a defeat. It's a retreat.

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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
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I went to the dentist! I was very, very afraid that I would have many cavities and need root canals and have a bunch of things that I can't afford that would need doing right away. Turns out, despite not having been in almost a decade (!!!) I am doing pretty well. I have one small-ish cavity that I am getting filled in a month, and that's it. No other issues.

I almost lost it when they were doing x-rays, and the thing they put in your mouth to take the films was a bit too big, and I started getting all flustered and then felt like I couldn't breathe properly, but I just took a bunch of slow deep breaths, and I made it through.

Special Dental Status Unlocked!

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 Post subject: Re: Triumphs over anxiety!
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You leveled up!

(The hard plastic x-ray things really are the worst. They poke the roof of your mouth and make you gaggy and teary. I really hate them. You really do just have to keep breathing and remind yourself they're coming to take them out in a few seconds.)

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when mar was diagnosed with ckd, i joined a support group for those helping their kitties cope. i joined the ckd memorial group after he passed but never stopped getting the emails from the help group for those battling ckd. i would still read the digest daily up till this week. my heart was aching to much seeing the kitties pass and kitties keep on getting sick. i had to start deleting the emails for my hearts sake. i was panicked at first, but then it just felt like the thing to do. i cannot give better advice to those looking for help than the ones that maintain the group, the group was just making it hard for me to heal.

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Remember that you are not harming anyone by choosing not to read the emails.

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Today is a threefer. I have two job interviews, and I have to socialize at two separate work events and drive colleagues all over town. It is such a sneaky day of being unloyal and then loyal to my work filled with terrifying situations. It's a triumph because I'm wearing my favourite dress and heading out the door.


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you got this vijita! you rule!!

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Go vijita! I'm sure you're totally rocking that dress and owning this day!


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Thanks guys! Seriously, THANKS! (in my car, in the parking lot, waiting for the right timing to work itself out).


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It's in the bag.

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