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The drink is a good idea.

I would just ask him to get the burrito then if things are going well you can suggest to go and also get a drink afterwards.

So I don't know if I'm just really bad at people, or whether my friend is sending signals that are more affectionate than I had anticipated, or whether this is just because we've hooked up and nothing more.
Yesterday he called me out of the blue, because "I heard fiddle music on the radio and it made me think of you, so how are you?" As it was I was about to go on stage, so I talked distractedly for a moment and then said I'd talk to him later. Intermittent texting that night/this morning, then this happened:
me: *glower*
him "aww, you miss me so much you're glowing."
me: "I meant glower as in 'to have an angry or sullen look on one's face; to scowl"
him: "I know what you meant. I deliberately ignored it's meaning."
me: "Mhm. Inflated ego or wishful thinking? ;)"
him: "I'd be lying if I didn't say both. :-)"
me: "lol/d'aww shucks then. I do miss you."
him: ":-)"

I don't know if this means anything*, or if it does mean something, what? And then there's that time when we were both like "yeah so I like you for reasons that aren't related to making out." and left it at that.
(*Aside from the fact that he apparently doesn't know that "it's" is short for "it is" and not the possessive, which is "its", and is therefore ineligible because I am a snob.)
Augh.
And since it's been a month since seeing him (summer break and all) I'm not quite as EEEEEE JITTERS whenever I see any sign of life in his corner. And I still am conflicted in general, not just about him but also about relationships and whether I really want to put any kind of effort into anything with anyone right now ("OR EVER", chimes in my melodramatic side).

I'm so bad at these sorts of things.

To simplify it: If someone goes out of their way to talk to you and misses you when you're not around, there's totally something to it!

I mean we're friends, so the whole missing thing makes sense. And also like I said we were hooking up before I came home for summer. So there's something there, I just don't know what it is or what I'd like it to be. At the beginning we agreed there wasn't much chance that this thing would go romantic, and then one night we both ended up saying "yeah I like you for reasons" or some variant of that, but then not finishing those thoughts.

Obviously, the solution is to stop angsting online and call him up and ask what's happening. Yup.

Well, guess I didn't need to worry because he asked me out.

Whaaaaaaa?? That's awesome!!

I know, I'm kind of excited. He brought gum to work and checked the ingredients on it before he offered it to me, which I thought was cute.

Good luck, Shantylass!

And yay, peanut! :D

On the other hand, my friends and I have conversations like that quite a lot, too. Then again I'm terrible at reading people.

this made me think of this thread.

This is my exact feeling.

So true.

I have the hugest crush on Antonio Marquez from this show I've been watching on Netflix, "All on the Line". He's in a few episodes, as a pattern maker/seamstress. So in love. I'm seriously considering stalking him.

I totally have a crush on a girl I met on OkCupid but I kind of think she just wants to be friends.

Also I am getting kind of exhausted of crushing/dating in the Portland queer community. This girl both dated my ex-girlfriend's best friend's ex-girlfriend, and is Facebook friends with another ex-girlfriend's ex-girlfriend's ex-girlfriend. And that ex-girlfriend of mine is the one I posted about having a crush on in this thread not too long ago, about how her ex-girlfriend is good friends with a lot of my friends AND she was friends with my roommate (who doesn't know those friends).

Ditto on the cartoon!

I'm thinking about getting drunk and attack kissing him the next time we hang out, but my guess is since I've worked up the nerve to do it, he will do it first, on the same day that I was going to. Because that's how it goes with him apparently.

Also, I don't know how often I should be texting him. Any ideas?

The web of death! Are these people also poly? Everyone in the Melbourne queer scene that I move in is.... this recently meant that I was dating my partner's old housemate, whose (very recent) ex was dating my housemate. The person I was dating was also dating my partner's ex, and one of their current housemates. The very recent ex was the ex of one of my other housemates. It gets much more complicated than that, but it's basically pretty ridiculous.

Anyway, I hear you on the intensity and tiresomeness of dating people in a zero-degrees-of-separation kind of scene.

i thought it was super sweet and awesome the first time that i heard from my current sweetheart once a day in some form (text, email, facebook, phonecall) once a day for a week...i think something once a day is just enough to let someone know you're thinking about them a lot without being overwhelming, and will keep you at the front of their brains. of course, it depends how they respond as well. i tend to send some form of communication and then respond again once they respond to me. but really, i think you should communicate as often as you want to and if that's not the right amount for them, then fork 'em.

Ha! Gunk, you described queer/polly dating in Denver. Sometimes, i learn about a new (or old) connection and I'm like "Ohhhhhh, everything makes sense now..."

I was without a serious crush (beyond, wow, I know some real babes) for a while. Then I realized that the feelings i have for a friend i totally adore & admire have moved from a friend crush to a real oh-my-god sexy/romantic crush. Sigh.

We're having a beer this week, but it is certainly a friendly beer, not a date beer.

Gunk, some of those people are poly but I'm definitely not...I just want one girl who gets along with my cats and can make a decent tofu scramble and is good in bed. And doesn't dump me for some random girl she met once on the same night she told me she loved me for the first time and claim it's because she's too busy with work and also me being sometimes attracted to men gives her icky feelings.

Feels like deja vu, but I guess I didn't need to worry about this either because the texting has become almost constant.

Aw, Peanut, that sounds like it's going well!

I didn't think I got crushes, but in the pub on Tuesday we ran into a lady who was in a society with me for a year in 2009-2010 (though I rarely got up the nerve to talk to her) and I've seen about twice since then. I think I have a crush on her (and have just about since I met her).
It isn't a sex type of crush though.

At first she kept facing away from me and I wasn't sure if it was her, and was far too excited to think it might be. Then she noticed us and came over to talk to us and squee! excited tummy. Also she complimented my bandana!

I may have messed this up. I am a really difficult person to read, and I think he is doubting whether I like him. He was trying to figure it out via text last night, and I'm such a mess that I can't just say that I do like him. I have to make a sarcastic joke out of everything. So I haven't heard from him at all today. I've already gone really far out of my comfort zone in several ways with him, of course he has no way of knowing that. So, it all comes down to me doubting myself and feeling like a horrible, undateable freak, and him running away.

Is it possible to fix this? This is really new, so I feel kind of uncomfortable having a conversation about exactly how weird I am. But, I also don't want to scare him away by continuing to be how I am without explaining it a little.

Sorry for the rambling, but this is bothering me quite a bit.

Please ignore my last post. I am prone to unnecessary freak-outs.