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I *still* haven't worked up the nerve to message the person I'm sort of crushing on (I met said person once last monday and failed to get the number) through livejournal (no, I'm not super stalkery, they gave me their magazine website which has a blog on LJ and they post there under their username and I really don't want to use the submission email to contact them)

I'm sorry, fezza. It's really wonderful that you took action when you realized that things would not be good for you, but I understand that it's still tough, because that doesn't negate the chemistry you had or the feelings that were there. Do you think you might see the lecturer again?

After nothing for a while, my crush contacted me just when I was wondering what the appropriate amount of time to wait is. I looked like this:

Lilliaaaaannnnnn tell me about this please! Cause I think this person might be from the Scifi/Fantasy meetup that my friend organizes and so I am curious! So curious!



Fezza, I totally hear you and am 100% with you. It's a bisque.

DRC, that made me giggle very hard. Also, YAY YOU! How did crush contact? If it's email or text message, I try to wait about half an hour so I don't look too enthusiastic (my email goes to my phone), but so I also don't look like I'm purposely waiting (because anyone who has met me knows that I check my phone embarrassingly frequently, so if I waited four hours, it'd be suspect).

Ultimately... Respond when you want! I think worrying about timing and whatnot will only stress you out unnecessarily.

Thanks guys! <3 I don't think anything would happen with lecturer, he has booked me to work as his assistant at a job next month. It's better if we just keep to a working relationship. He's a nice guy and I'm looking forward to working with him.

I don't have a real crush right now but the cute guy who lives across the street said hi to me today. It was kinda nice.

Uh, well. It's the Boston Scifi/Fantasy meet up. Does that help? And i'm not sure how often this person participates, so I dunno if going to ALL the meet ups would help. Sigh.

I also realized I double booked myself-backpacking for a weekend or going to see Dark Knight Rises on a friday night?! I dunno!

Yes! That is totally the meet up I used to go to. Josh, Lynn, and Ethan are all my people. Tell Josh that you are my friend and mention your interest in the person in question and he probably tell you how often he or she attends and be appropriately quiet about it.

Aww, I'm happy you're going to that! It's a really great group of people.

Is it wrong to fantasize about a cute guy in my office who is married (and I'm also in a relationship)? I caught myself thinking of unrealistic futures with him, featuring smooches and babies and stuff. I don't even want babies! But I painted my nails last night because I know I'll see him today for an important meeting. Fantasy crush!

We were emailing, and then after I replied we talked on gchat last night. While I was watching You've Got Mail. He is impossibly wonderful so I'm always worried that I'm going to say something dumb.

Sweet! I'll be sure to introduce myself. Everyone seemed super awesome, though I spent most of the evening talking about social justice & nerd things with this person. Previous to that it was two guys stationed on the USS Wasp, a giant asparagus naval ship that was here in Boston for the Tall Ships festival we just had. So, uh, what I'm trying to say is that I haven't more than in passing met these people you mention!

Additionally, I made myself message said person through LJ. They're on the Cape right now and probably not going to be at the next event, but is open to hanging out outside of the meetup! Wheeeeeee

YAY! That's awesome! I am excited for you. And the person sounds really great! Yay for you!!

Try to track down Ethan at some point, he's a fellow vegan.

Ethan as in.. Ethan Ethan? Does that make sense? Ex? If so he's gonna be that person where we give each other really weird looks until we figure out why.

Haha, yes. He went vegan after I moved, that jerk. We're on super good terms, though, so no worries about weirdness. He's good people!

Such a jerk! Also, no weirdness I don't think, just weird looks before we figure out how we've seen each other before!

Do it! The trick is to go almost everyday and be a little bit creepy.

You totally just inspired me to do some writing in a coffee shop instead of at home. I don't know if any of the baristas will be hot, but here's hoping.

Just chiming in to say that I had a crush on my local coffee shop guy (he's vegan, and cute). We used to flirt some (I don't go there much anymore now that my crush from 3-5 months ago has turned into an unofficially serious possible relationship). So YES, go to coffeeshops! I've met 2 cute vegan guy that way!

Has the term "crushtomer" been coined yet? Because I totally have one, and o.m.g. For real.

Hahaha! So much loving the term 'crushtomer'. LUV.

"Crushtomer" is brilliant!

I've talked to my crush quite a bit more, and due to certain things that were said (and the fact that we talked for a few hours...), I'm thinking it's possible that he might like me? And I don't know what to do now. I am happy, excited, and very very nervous.

I started writing a story about my office crush. I hope to exorcize it and at the same time create an imaginary possible future.

Well, moves have now been made. I think he loves me.

Ungggh, stabs myself in stomach.

So at the coffee shop last night, not only was my crush my there, so was the other hot guy that works there. I've never been there when they've been working the same time. It was awesome, both of them were being real chatty with me.

Also! Before this, earlier in the day, I was working, outside working on the plants, and my crush came by to shop inside where I work, and on his way in he poked me on the shoulder as he walked by, and then made a cute smile at me! It was super casual and he kept walking but oh my gosh, best surprise ever.

Eeeeeeeeeeeee! Awesome!