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 Post subject: Re: Would you get a lawyer or am I just being stupid?
PostPosted: Sun May 08, 2011 1:58 am 
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I wish you luck. You are being harassed. When I owned my house I was harassed by a male neighbor who spread vicious rumors around the neighborhood which everyone believed. There was nothing I could do about it. Luckily I sold the house.

If she comes into your apartment again or puts a hand on you, I would call the police immediately.

There was nothing I could do about the garbage in my yard and vandalism to my house or the rock thrown at my car.

Anyway of recording any of her activity? If she comes in your house get her on video or camera. It's proof anyway.


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 Post subject: Re: Would you get a lawyer or am I just being stupid?
PostPosted: Sun May 08, 2011 5:03 am 
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Yeah, I agree with what a lot of what people have suggested, and also want to add the reminder that landlords/ladies/people are...people, too, and many of them are compassionate and ethical people who will choose to do the right thing in this situation, not base their actions on what's most financially advantageous for them. I never encountered a situation like this when I was renting, but I feel pretty confident that if someone were queer-baiting me in my apartment complex and I had reported it to the apartment managers, they would have done everything they could to address the situation appropriately, simply because it's Not Okay to harass your gay neighbor. So unless you know your apartment manager is a jerk and/or homophobe, I'd suggest giving them the benefit of the doubt and operating under the assumption that they will in fact do the right thing unless they demonstrate otherwise.

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 Post subject: Re: Would you get a lawyer or am I just being stupid?
PostPosted: Mon May 09, 2011 12:45 pm 
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I wanted to update everybody with a happy ending to the story that shows, yes, people can be good ^_^

I talked to the security officer and manager of the complex, and explained in detail and apparently OTHER residents have complained about this woman's obsession with me; they were just waiting for an official complaint from me. She's been talked to, told if she even is seen hanging outside of my apartment the cops are being called. The complex manager wanted me to know that it's nobody's business what I do in the bedroom; all he cares about is I don't start trouble and am responsible. Which is awesome; knowing I can just..be. And safe. They also pointed out the security office is right next to my apartment so it's easy to see if she's causing anything, but to call them on my cell phone if they don't see it.

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PostPosted: Mon May 09, 2011 1:08 pm 
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That's a relief, PhoenixKitty! I'd keep documenting in case it has to escalate from security to police, but it sure is good to know that you have management, security and your neighbors on your side.

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PostPosted: Mon May 09, 2011 1:15 pm 
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What a relief, PhoenixKitty! Also, she followed you from another town????

I'm so glad the security and management of your complex was understanding--and that everyone else noticed the creep hanging out! Hopefully she will be dissuaded from lurking.

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 Post subject: Re: Would you get a lawyer or am I just being stupid?
PostPosted: Mon May 09, 2011 1:31 pm 
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Yeah, the fact that she followed you from another town makes it even more serious. That would be something I would mention to the landlord/security/authorities.

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 Post subject: Re: Would you get a lawyer or am I just being stupid?
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bunniee wrote:
I don't understand why you wouldn't call the police. It doesn't matter that she was a former roommate, the woman has no legal right to just walk into your apartment! Una and others have some great advice here.
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Call the police. If you need to fight/initiate eviction proceedings, or if you would consider a civil suit, that is when you get a lawyer. Now, you protect yourself by calling the cops. As Una and Tofulish said, keep records of everything you do, and write down specifically the things she's doing to you.

Do what you need to do to get this woman out of your life. She's a crasshole who seems to feel like she's entitled to a say in your life. Don't let her!
All of this. Please get this taken care of ASAP so you can get on with your life and get this horrible person out of it!

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 Post subject: Re: Would you get a lawyer or am I just being stupid?
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bunniee wrote:
I don't understand why you wouldn't call the police. It doesn't matter that she was a former roommate, the woman has no legal right to just walk into your apartment! Una and others have some great advice here.
jordanpattern wrote:
Call the police. If you need to fight/initiate eviction proceedings, or if you would consider a civil suit, that is when you get a lawyer. Now, you protect yourself by calling the cops. As Una and Tofulish said, keep records of everything you do, and write down specifically the things she's doing to you.

Do what you need to do to get this woman out of your life. She's a crasshole who seems to feel like she's entitled to a say in your life. Don't let her!
All of this. Please get this taken care of ASAP so you can get on with your life and get this horrible person out of it!

Call the police and give them the details about what has happened so far. She's dangerous.

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 Post subject: Re: Would you get a lawyer or am I just being stupid?
PostPosted: Tue Dec 11, 2012 8:00 am 
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This is an old thread. Is there a reason for reviving it?

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 Post subject: Re: Would you get a lawyer or am I just being stupid?
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It was revived by a spammer. Along with a bunch of other threads with "lawyer" in the title.

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 Post subject: Re: Would you get a lawyer or am I just being stupid?
PostPosted: Tue Dec 11, 2012 1:30 pm 
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now i'm curious if the woman stayed or moved out of the complex/town.

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I certainly hope she learned her lesson and moved away.

Maybe she even came out of the closet and learned that what she did was NOT the proper way to flirt.


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 Post subject: Re: Would you get a lawyer or am I just being stupid?
PostPosted: Tue Dec 11, 2012 6:15 pm 
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In my (thankfully limited) experience, once neighbors go that far over the edge they aren't paying rent either, so eviction isn't far behind. Hopefully this one left the OP alone after this.


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 Post subject: Re: Would you get a lawyer or am I just being stupid?
PostPosted: Wed Dec 12, 2012 12:38 pm 
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Holy necro O.o Yes, I do not live in that town. And other than a drunken Facebook message (from her) have had no contact with that woman.

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 Post subject: Re: Would you get a lawyer or am I just being stupid?
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good! yay for your neighbors and landlord sticking up for you!

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