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 Post subject: PSA: Please stop and think
PostPosted: Sat Oct 30, 2010 2:15 pm 
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I buried one of my best friends yesterday. He was 37, had a mother and father, a brother and sister, and a lot of friends that are going to miss him. Greg was the most unique individual I will ever meet. I've known him since since sixth grade, and I have him to thank for my love of punk, skateboarding, and living life by your own rules. Greg OD'd last saturday night. I worked with him all day on saturday. I was holding the steering wheel for him on the way to work while he got high. When he dropped me off at the end of the day, my last words to him were "Be careful". I got a voicemail on sunday morning telling me that he passed away.

I just wanted to take a minute and say, that if you are using hard drugs please stop and think for one minute. Think about your mom who will be so upset at your funeral that she can't walk. Think about your brother and sister and how much they will miss you. Think about all your friends whose lives you've changed and all the memories you have made.

I miss my friend.


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I am so sorry. I am sending thoughts and prayers your way and for Greg's family.

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I am so sorry.

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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
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I'm so sorry for your loss.


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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
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I'm so sorry. That is horribly sad.

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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
PostPosted: Sat Oct 30, 2010 2:44 pm 
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I'm sorry to hear about your friend. If you don't mind me asking, what was he taking?


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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
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so sorry. losing friends is awful. losing friends to drugs is awful plus maddening.
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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
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Crust, I am so sorry for your loss. I've lost a friend to an overdose too, and it hurts to think about. You're in my thoughts.

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I am so sorry. Hugs to you! I lost a cousin to an overdose. It's a horrible feeling. I am so sorry for your loss.


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I'm so sorry for your loss...how are you holding up?

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I'm so sorry you're going through this right now, I know what it's like to lose a friend.

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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
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Crust - I am so very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story and not keeping the details to yourself. You may have saved someone's life by sharing.


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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
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I lost a cousin to an overdose a few years ago. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you're holding up alright.

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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
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I'm so sorry for your loss.


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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
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I'm sorry for your loss. I hope your friend is in a better place now.


Crust wrote:
I was holding the steering wheel for him on the way to work while he got high.


This is not the time or place to go into this, but the above could also be something to think about.


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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
PostPosted: Sat Oct 30, 2010 4:17 pm 
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i agree wholeheartedly, eric, and am also very sorry for the loss of your friend, crust.


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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
PostPosted: Sat Oct 30, 2010 4:41 pm 
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Oh man. That is rough rough rough. Thanks for the PSA, and thanks for thinking of others in such a personal time of sorrow. Hang in there.

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((hugs)) I'm so sorry for your loss.

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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
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I'm sorry for your loss.


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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
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So sorry for your loss. There are no words...

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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
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Okay. Here I go.

First off, I am so, so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how hard it must be and my thoughts are with you.

Secondly. I'm an alcoholic. I try to get sober and it's hard. I'm drinking right now, after four days of sobriety. I couldn't take the feelings anymore.

To say it bluntly: threatening us with sad parents isn't going to work. It'll work for a day. You have no idea how guilty I feel the first day. It's painful and overwhelming and terrible. And exactly then is when the addiction will start yelling. We'll feel guilty about hurting our family and friends and that emotion, just like any emotion, will drive us to use. You say "think about your mom", and I think "look what I've done to her. I'm a terrible human being". And then I'll use.

(For the record, your post didn't make me use, I didn't read it until I was already drinking. No one can "make" anyone use, just like no one can force anyone to stop. It is definitely, without a doubt, not your fault that I'm using, or that your friend died. I hope you know that.)

No one can stop for someone else. You can only stop for yourself.

If you want to help, support treatment centres, encourage the people around you to get help. Don't say "If you don't, I will be hurt". I know you're trying to help, but the more guilty we feel, the more we'll use to get rid of it. And you know how we deal with pain, I described it above. Personally the last thing I need is to stop and think. If I stop and think, my head will think "hey, you've stopped trying to distract me. you're thinking! let's get booze! NOW!" and there'll be no stopping me.

I'm not sure where I'm going with this, I am drunk after all, but just... as a general message: if you're trying to get someone to quit drugs or alcohol, don't make them feel bad about what they're doing. That's not going to work. Make them feel good about what they COULD be doing. Encourage them to do things, but don't force them. If you've ever been forced to do something, you know that that just makes you feel like you want to reject it without even knowing what it is.



Your message is great though. I applaud you for starting this thread. We all need to stop using. We really do. Our lives, and the lives of everyone around us, could be so much better.

Good luck to everyone, and I'm so sorry if I offended anyone. I'm just trying to share my perspective.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. So, so sorry.

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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
PostPosted: Sat Oct 30, 2010 6:08 pm 
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Dr. Horrible wrote:
Okay. Here I go.

First off, I am so, so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how hard it must be and my thoughts are with you.

Secondly. I'm an alcoholic. I try to get sober and it's hard. I'm drinking right now, after four days of sobriety. I couldn't take the feelings anymore.

To say it bluntly: threatening us with sad parents isn't going to work. It'll work for a day. You have no idea how guilty I feel the first day. It's painful and overwhelming and terrible. And exactly then is when the addiction will start yelling. We'll feel guilty about hurting our family and friends and that emotion, just like any emotion, will drive us to use. You say "think about your mom", and I think "look what I've done to her. I'm a terrible human being". And then I'll use.

(For the record, your post didn't make me use, I didn't read it until I was already drinking. No one can "make" anyone use, just like no one can force anyone to stop. It is definitely, without a doubt, not your fault that I'm using, or that your friend died. I hope you know that.)

No one can stop for someone else. You can only stop for yourself.

If you want to help, support treatment centres, encourage the people around you to get help. Don't say "If you don't, I will be hurt". I know you're trying to help, but the more guilty we feel, the more we'll use to get rid of it. And you know how we deal with pain, I described it above. Personally the last thing I need is to stop and think. If I stop and think, my head will think "hey, you've stopped trying to distract me. you're thinking! let's get booze! NOW!" and there'll be no stopping me.

I'm not sure where I'm going with this, I am drunk after all, but just... as a general message: if you're trying to get someone to quit drugs or alcohol, don't make them feel bad about what they're doing. That's not going to work. Make them feel good about what they COULD be doing. Encourage them to do things, but don't force them. If you've ever been forced to do something, you know that that just makes you feel like you want to reject it without even knowing what it is.



Your message is great though. I applaud you for starting this thread. We all need to stop using. We really do. Our lives, and the lives of everyone around us, could be so much better.

Good luck to everyone, and I'm so sorry if I offended anyone. I'm just trying to share my perspective.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. So, so sorry.


Thank you for that perspective, as someone with three alcoholic siblings, two of them drug addicts, I really appreciate your honesty <3


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 Post subject: Re: PSA: Please stop and think
PostPosted: Sat Oct 30, 2010 6:13 pm 
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Thanks for all the positive comments, I really appreciate it. Really hurting right now.
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I'm so sorry for your loss, crust. Please be well.

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Dr. Horrible wrote:
Okay. Here I go.

First off, I am so, so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how hard it must be and my thoughts are with you.

Secondly. I'm an alcoholic. I try to get sober and it's hard. I'm drinking right now, after four days of sobriety. I couldn't take the feelings anymore.

To say it bluntly: threatening us with sad parents isn't going to work. It'll work for a day. You have no idea how guilty I feel the first day. It's painful and overwhelming and terrible. And exactly then is when the addiction will start yelling. We'll feel guilty about hurting our family and friends and that emotion, just like any emotion, will drive us to use. You say "think about your mom", and I think "look what I've done to her. I'm a terrible human being". And then I'll use.

(For the record, your post didn't make me use, I didn't read it until I was already drinking. No one can "make" anyone use, just like no one can force anyone to stop. It is definitely, without a doubt, not your fault that I'm using, or that your friend died. I hope you know that.)

No one can stop for someone else. You can only stop for yourself.

If you want to help, support treatment centres, encourage the people around you to get help. Don't say "If you don't, I will be hurt". I know you're trying to help, but the more guilty we feel, the more we'll use to get rid of it. And you know how we deal with pain, I described it above. Personally the last thing I need is to stop and think. If I stop and think, my head will think "hey, you've stopped trying to distract me. you're thinking! let's get booze! NOW!" and there'll be no stopping me.

I'm not sure where I'm going with this, I am drunk after all, but just... as a general message: if you're trying to get someone to quit drugs or alcohol, don't make them feel bad about what they're doing. That's not going to work. Make them feel good about what they COULD be doing. Encourage them to do things, but don't force them. If you've ever been forced to do something, you know that that just makes you feel like you want to reject it without even knowing what it is.



Your message is great though. I applaud you for starting this thread. We all need to stop using. We really do. Our lives, and the lives of everyone around us, could be so much better.

Good luck to everyone, and I'm so sorry if I offended anyone. I'm just trying to share my perspective.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. So, so sorry.


Thank you for this. My mother is an alcoholic, my father a drug addict; it is so easy to want to yell at them and tell them how much they've ruined me. But next time I am ready to blow up at them, I will try to keep your message in mind. Thanks.

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