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I received a check for Christmas from my grandparents, with whom I do not get along. I will still send a thank you, but I don't want their money. Is it rude to just shred the check? I'm assuming they will realize sooner or later that it was never cashed.

I have just finished all my Christmas shopping, which means on Christmas Eve I will only have to go out and get all the things I'm going to discover I have forgotten tomorrow.

Can you just donate the money? If they're anything like me every time a check is in limbo I get stressed until it pulls from my account. Unless that's your intention!

You don't want that job. I had one of those and it almost ruined my career, making my unhireable. They hire someone with no experience, don't want to train, then get pissed off and angry that you have no experience, then fire you.

Stay away. You are too awesome for that bullshiitake.

The job I had is reposted yearly, and actually was just reposted for midyear. It is such an obvious pattern.

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I'm sorry. Have you tried walking? Did they tell you to do that? the gas pain are what hurt after my gastric bypass; everything else was mostly tolerable except drain cleaning. A lot depens too on how much they needed to use during surgery.

Ask for something else if T3 isn't working. It isn't on the same level as fentanyl as far as pain relief. Also, if your metabolism is weird with these drugs, many micro doses of liquids might be mre effective, which is what I had/have to do.

Will it help to know that the gas usually passes pretty quickly within a couple days, and then *poof* you'll probably mostly just feel tired and overall blah from surgery?

See! Now this is why people don't like dentists.

I don't know if it will bother them to have it in limbo, it's more about me feeling like I shouldn't accept a gift from people I don't like and seem like a hypocrite, yet not wanting to be a bisque by refusing it.

Whahahaha! I don't know why I'm acting so grinchy. I am actually very happy and excited about Christmas! And Santa!

i get birthday and christmas checks from relatives i like but don't know well and have never spent much time with, and taking money from them just feels weird. i usually just put the checks in a drawer and forget about them. i have no idea how those relatives feel about it, or whether they even notice; not being very close to them means never talking to them about gifts, or anything else.

Fatcat, I never cashed those checks either. $50 checks for every holiday, sometimes the birthday was wrong, were the sum total of her relationship with me since I wasn't a "real" grandchild, being half unAmerican and all. (even when we lived in the same tiny crepe town along with her "real" grandchildren)

On the few occasions she asked my mom about uncashed checks and my mom got mad at me, I cashed and donated.

I never sent a thank you either, and refused all phone contact. She knew how I felt. Sending the checks was on her to make herself feel like grandmother of the year. Just seeing the envelopes from her made my skin crawl.

I would probably do this.

I'm feeling a little better today. I might go ask for something else though. And knowing it should pass soon does help! And god bless heating pads! My mom made a midnight run last night to buy me a second one.

Thanks for the kind words and thoughts, everybody.

Heh, I didn't cash a couple of checks from my granny, but it was because I loved her and knew she worried about money. I third cashing and donating, and I'd say that's what I'd done in the thank you note, too.

On a related note, I told my mum that donations in my name to homeless or animal shelters really please me (if people wanted to gift me but weren't sure what to get), and she was inexplicably disgruntled about it. It's obviously one of her pet peeves if people give her that, and I never knew until this year!

In order to torment my dog I threw her teddy across the room and it landed in her water bowl. Now she is sitting there all sad like I just told her

That makes a lot of sense. Thank you. Ill definitely keep this in mind! Sorry that happened to you lw.

My bio father (who I wish to have no contact with) sent me a $100 bill. I'll donate $100 but it annoys the hell out of me that he sent it to me.

A few weeks after my parents threatened to kill me (and my father attempting to strangle me) they sent me €1000 as "a birthday present." Very unusual since I rarely got Christmas or birthday presents from them. I told the cops. Their words....... spend it and enjoy it. The money went on a new hair straightners and some new clothes since I only had a few clothes that I managed to take with me when I had to run out the door. Oh and food.

I hope you feel better soon j-dub!

USPS and Amazon worked together to screw me up. I ordered something expecting it to get here today. Amazon never ships USPS for me, apparently they did for this item. Problem is I had put a hold on our mail starting today. So if Amazon had shipped UPS/Fedex, I'd have my item but because of the hold, I'll have to get it when I get back from vacation. I had bought it because I wanted it for the trip.

Hey this reminds me of Seinfeld -an episode where he has never cashed his granny's checks for 20 years...

(this is so exotic -I've never use a check) :D

That's a horrific story daisychain. I would have spent it. Then again, I don't give a shiitake. You give me money, I refuse it, offer it back once. Second time? It's mine. I'mma take it and run.

I'm feeling so good today, peppey, having fun... But I'm on my lunch now at work and holy shiitake! All of a sudden I feel like falling asleep right here in a chair! Argh! I can't nap after work, I has a date!

There are two hot guys writhing around on the floor right now, for my benefit. AKA, biker boy has really nice friends and one of them came over to help him install a hitch on my car to hold the bike rack he got me for Christmas. It's been amusing to watch them slide under my car and be all manly and stuff.