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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sat Oct 01, 2016 9:52 pm 
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I did online dating for such a long time, and got lots of really awful messages that clearly weren't about making me feel like "a miracle of creation." They made me want to set my computer on fire and throw it out of the window. I really find it nearly impossible to believe that a normal nice guy would be so clueless about women that he could think these were messages that would open the avenue to any kind of intimacy. It's like someone screaming rude comments at you from a cab driving by at 35 mph - it's more about the power of being able to hurt someone and impact them, not about an attempt to create intimacy.


This is so so well said. A lot of messages that I, and so many other women, have received are the online equivalent of a man saying "How you doing?" to a woman passing by; he doesn't really care how she's doing, but can wash his hands of harassment by veiling the power dynamic as an innocent conversation starter.

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sun Oct 02, 2016 7:58 am 
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Learn to be a better person then someone might fork/date you. This is general advice, not directed at you, worldrunner.

I have had casual partners I met online. It's not that hard and I am sure in the vastness of the internet you can find how-tos. We were all polite and adult in our initial interactions. Frankly, I've met far too many men, online and in real life, who don't seem to have matured beyond high school, and whose main source of information about sex has come from porn. (Edited to add I am 51)


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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Wed Oct 12, 2016 5:30 am 
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I forgot to tell you guys, but I got engaged to my boyfriend whom I met on OKC four years ago. We're living together a while now and we'll get married in 2 years or so. I keep thinking that I should write one of those happy success stories for OKC and send it to them to thank them for this. I would have never met him otherwise.

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Wed Oct 12, 2016 6:59 am 
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Cuuuute! I love that story, Anek! My partner and I also met on OKC (but had mutual friends and had technically met before, but didn't remember each other). We're also married now, for just over a year. I'm really looking forward to the day when we can finally live in the same country (loooooong story that I've told bits of intermittently on here).

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Wed Oct 12, 2016 7:32 am 
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Awww Anek! That's such exciting news. I'm so happy that you've found someone you like so much.

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PostPosted: Wed Oct 12, 2016 6:59 pm 
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Anek wrote:
I forgot to tell you guys, but I got engaged to my boyfriend whom I met on OKC four years ago. We're living together a while now and we'll get married in 2 years or so. I keep thinking that I should write one of those happy success stories for OKC and send it to them to thank them for this. I would have never met him otherwise.

Yay!

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
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Congrats! That is so exciting.

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Thu Oct 13, 2016 3:51 am 
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Aww congrats Anek :)

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
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Yesterday was mine and Hummus Guy's 2 year anniversary and a year til our wedding. OKC wins again! :)

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Tue Oct 18, 2016 9:18 pm 
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I just got a message on OKC from the only one night stand I've ever had. It's basically an introductory message - in other words, he has no idea that we've ever met. I kinda want to message back something like "Dude, we forked last year. You're the worst kisser EVER. Maybe keep notes somewhere or something."

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Tue Oct 18, 2016 9:20 pm 
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I just got a message on OKC from the only one night stand I've ever had. It's basically an introductory message - in other words, he has no idea that we've ever met. I kinda want to message back something like "Dude, we forked last year. You're the worst kisser EVER. Maybe keep notes somewhere or something."


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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Tue Oct 25, 2016 10:59 pm 
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Well...my online dating stint seems to have come full circle. Tonight I got a message from the man who TOOK MY VIRGINITY 17 years ago!! 650 kilometres away from here, where we both lived at the time. He has no idea who I am I am 99 percent sure. To be fair, we didn't have a relationship way back when he popped my cherry, he was just a guy I kinda knew and I chose him to deflower me. He was also drunk. He looks much less different now than I do, even though he is 10 years older than me. I only barely pieced together it's him as he used his first name in his intro message and his last name is embedded in his username. He also has recognizable tatts. This is crazy. Right? I live in a city of 1 million people now. He lives within a tight radius of this, according to his profile. So. What now. Lol. Well. We've already boinked, there goes an awful lot of awkwardness lol. I don't want a fork buddy only though. I will not be responding to him tonight.but this is a rare opportunity, I have had no contact with him for 17 years since he moved away , after I did it with him (though not because of doing it with me ha) The good news is, my best friend from where I used to live knows him and definitely stayed in contact with him longer than I did, maybe even until recently. Definitely need to bounce this off of her. Onnnlly me, I swear. You just can't make this shiitake up .There has got to be a message in this. I have been thinking of dropping the online dating for awhile too.

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sat Oct 29, 2016 7:16 pm 
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I went on my first gay date tonight with someone I met online. I was home by 10 and in bed with someone else by midnight so you can imagine it didn't go too well

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PostPosted: Thu Feb 09, 2017 11:05 pm 
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Guysssss, I had a super wonderful first date last night with someone from Tinder. Lots of laughing the whole time and lots of great kisses at the end of the night. I'm having really wonderful crushy feelings that I haven't had in a long time and aaaaaaaaahhhh!


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Yay for crushy feelings!


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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sun Feb 19, 2017 4:49 pm 
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Guysssss, I had a super wonderful first date last night with someone from Tinder. Lots of laughing the whole time and lots of great kisses at the end of the night. I'm having really wonderful crushy feelings that I haven't had in a long time and aaaaaaaaahhhh!


I'm so happy for you!!!

I've found more success recently on Grindr than anywhere else (for serious dates rather than forking). Not sure why but Grindr seems more like a dating app now.

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