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I'm starting to think maybe it is a cultural thing too. Fezza and I are in the same(ish) country and have come across the same kind of patterns and behaviours from men that use online dating here. I wonder is there scientific studies in it?!

I've done a vagientific study, the results weren't good.

Haha!

okay I was thinking about this the other day because my friend Liz was complaining about never knowing how to greet someone she's meeting for the first time, and I realized I wouldn't really have any idea either. do you go for a hug, handshake, high five, nod? what? how do you do that? what motion goes along with "hi, it's nice to meet you" etc??

My date Sunday gave a lame-guy wave at my dog. But I think maybe that could possibly be weird.

I think a wave is ok if it is across the room and to get the persons attention. I'm not into physical contact with strangers unless it is in a more formal situation.... then I would handshake. But date, more a hi how's it going and clutch onto your phone to dead call a friend to warn them you need rescuing.

It depends on the banter beforehand, if I've been getting on well with someone I'll give them a hug hello. If the conversation is a bit stilted/they're sitting down/look shy I just say 'hey, nice to meet you' and make a run for the coffee line or plonk down in a seat.

The two times I've met someone from online it's been a quick casual hug.

I shake hands when meeting someone. I shake hands at the end of the date on occasion.

I shake hands at the beginning, and often end with a hug and cheek kiss. Regardless how much we've spoken beforehand, I like shaking the hand of someone to get a feeling of how they are. I find that handshakes say a lot.

I had a really interesting date tonight, with an Italian guy just passing through Munich who does a very interesting job. We talked non stop for 4 hours, had a beer and then a nice dinner at the vegan restaurant, and overall share a lot of views. Too bad he's far away most of the time, but we might repeat next time he passes by. I haven't had such an interesting conversation for too long, although it made me realize how bad my Italian is becoming... half of the times I had to revert to English.

I usually just say hi and sit down when meeting someone for the first time, unless they try and shake my hand in which case I'll do that.

Two of the guys I went out with it was a quick hug hello. The third I was already in line at the coffee shop because he was late and I was feeling awkward just standing around. So that one was a contactless hello when he stepped into line a person or two behind me. Anecdata.

Had a date saturday wiht a nerdy dude getting his phd in physics had a good time, but not the love of my life.

Have a date tomorrow with my coworker who is movving to virginia. He was my grad school crush and I told him i wanted the date i never got before he leaves

Meeting a new guy on Sunday. Im super excited about this one, we've been talking a lot and skyping and I feel hopeful. Cross your fingers for me ppk!

Oh and also I ususally begin and end with a hug.

Okay, I feel derpy. There's cute guys I want to message buuuut I have no idea how to go about that. Well, I know how to message, it's just- bleh. It seems awkward. But it's still a cool website and I'm going to stick with it for now.

Pick something in their profile (ie:Buffy) and say something like: "hey! I love Buffy too! You having a good week?"

I live in San Francisco.

WHERE THE FRIG ARE ALL THE TATTOOED, GLASSES WEARING DUDES THAT DON'T EAT MEAT. This is the goddamn Bay Area!

Seriously. Even two out of those three things and I'm going to need one of those old fashioned menstrual pad belt setups to keep my pantaloons from flying off.

Why the hell can't I find any of these?!

This is exactly what I do, except it's always "Hey! I like cats too!"

This probably works better if you're a girl trying to date girls though. But in that case it almost ALWAYS works.

Really nice second date with the really nice girl, which she described as (with a posh British accent) "Just two ladies. Doing lady things." And the pop culture references didn't stop there, which was great. <3

Oh and I baked two birthday cakes (apple crumble and raspberry brownies, both from the PPK-blog) to take to work, and she made me promise to yell YOUR MOM'S CHEST HAIR at every person who'd ask me what's in a vegan brownie.

WOW. THAT SOUNDS LIKE THE BEST DATE EVER.

Marry her!

Okay, I can do that. I think. And I do love Buffy.

"Hey! I like cats too!" and "Let's get coffee sometime!"

Bread and freaking earth balance.

Hey! I like cats too and this is crazy, so here's my number, let's get coffee maybe?

I send someone a message complimenting their taste in music and now I'm giggly like I did something cool. Yup.

Also, got my first Nigerian scammer today!

Paloma, that story makes me feel happy and have hope! :) haha