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She invited me to come and do 80s karaoke with her on Singstar some other time. 8-)

THAT SOUNDS AWESOME PALOMA!

I have a coffee... Date? With this guy tomorrow.. And let me tell you... He's definitely the hottest one yet. SUPER excited.

Good luck Mars!! Fingers crossed. And Paloma, that sounds awesome!


I went to play pool with a new guy yesterday. It was fun and I won most of the games (one by skill, the others because he made a mistake), it was an interesting and unconventional conversation.
Maybe we'll repeat but there was not so much chemistry I must say. He bought me ice cream though!

I <3 you! x

oh yeah and this message I received last night is yet another reason that I hate online dating...

Queer people--talk to me about age differences. I'm 28. I have my account set up so that I am looking for people older than 25. But I keep talking to people who are younger than that. It creeps me out.

How much younger? I'm not queer, but I tend to have basic rules... I'm 26, with 27 right on top of me, and basically, I don't want to be involved with someone who is so much younger than I am that I'd be doing something like picking them up at a dorm room, or never being able to take them to a bar. I think where you are in life as far as maturity, what you've achieved, etc, is more important than a number. That said, I tend to be way more dubious of the likelihood of me hitting it off with someone much younger than I am. I am biased.

If you're uncomfortable talking to someone much younger than you, then don't! You should be comfortable and having fun.

At 28 I think dating people 25 and older sounds ideal, sure, but yeah, I don't think it's weird to go down a couple years depending on if you get along. And as for the queer part of that, in the queer scene here I've never noticed anyone being too weirded out by age differences.

yeah, I think our dating pool is generally smaller... and I live in the bible belt... and so I dunno. I'm still more comfortable with older people, but they can be hard to come by. Or maybe younger people like internet dating? Dunno. I'm approaching it with a "friends-only" mind-set for the time being.

oh yeah, I get the whole age difference thing in theory, but I would be worried about any sort of "don't date people x number of years younger than you" rule as I think it's pretty much case-by-case. I'm only 22 and I've generally dated people 5-10 years older than me pretty consistently since I started properly dating folks at 15. I don't aim for that much of an age difference, but it just seems to work out that way. doesn't mean I wouldn't give someone my age a chance or anything.
so yes, my point is go by person not by age?

I am in the same boat. I always feel a little weird about it at first, because my sister is 5 years older than I am and the people I date are generally closer in age to her than to me (and are older than she is!), but I've mostly stopped worrying. Usually I just worry about how my dad will react if I ever bring one home.

I'm currently dating two guys and I'm enjoying both, but not head over heels for either. However, we've been dating long enough that I'm starting to think I should at least let them know that the other one exists. I'm a little worried about how this is going to go. One I think will get it and be fine, but the other I'm a little worried is going to get upset. I don't want to stop dating either one just now, because I'm having fun with both and I'm not wildly falling for either one, but I also don't want to commit any lies of exclusion and subsequently end up hurting or upsetting someone.

The girl I'm seeing is 23. Theorethically, I (27) never thought I'd be dating a 23-y-o, but with her I haven't given it a second thought at all. I just like her for her.

Also, we kissed! Our next date is watching the Rocky Horror Picture Show together, and she's showing me her three-legged hamster. (Which is not a filter or something filthy, she actually has a three-legged hamster.)

since people vary so much in what they're comfortable with, my preferred style is to simply ask via text that day or the day before if they like to hug people they meet or shake hands.
most people have replied hug, possibly because they're more comfortable now that it's been asked.

I feel comfortable enough with social cues to not ask about the end, just to let stuff unfold on their own, but I can't pick up someone's body language in the first .67 seconds I know them

The hot guy I was supposed to go out with tonight never responded to any texts! Or OKC messages! The weird thing is, going out was 100% his idea. Weeeiiird. Oh well, I just ended up texting and going out with other OKC guy, with whom I've been on a couple dates already. We haven't kissed or anything... And I'm having a hard time figuring out if he needs me to be proactive that way or if he just wants to be friends. It was fun regardless.

I used to date only guys my age or a few years older, now I'm dating someone 4 years younger (I'm 32) and I see no issue whatsoever because we're basically at the same stage of life. It really depends on the people.

Last night I had the kinky guy over for dinner, which he appreciated (except the green beans that stayed in the oven for 1.5 hours because he was late. Dehydrated green beans are not something I'll try again soon). We had a nice evening and smooches and stuff, and are planning for another date next week. Me likes!

ah, welp, I just reached the saturation point in truly horrible messages. there's that out the window.

So you know that girl who was being super intense that I was hanging out with? Well, turns out she's not intense enough! Or just intense and rude.

She said she wanted to take me out to dinner tonight, we planned that on Thursday...she suggested 6, I said ok. She was having a clothing swap at her place during the day which she invited me to but I said I was busy with my new kitten but dinner would be good. She texted me sometime before 6 saying she was running late because of the clothing swap, could we go dinner later? 6 is pretty early, that didn't bother me, I basically said that anytime that was convenient for her was fine. But you know, I meant like...within normal dinner hours. A bit later she asked if 8 was ok, I said yeah, and suggested she come over here at 8 and meet my new kitten and I would make us pre-dinner cocktails. She agreed.

A little past 8, I texted her a picture of me with the kitten, because I was bored, and she was like oh you're teasing me and I texted back "then come over." At almost 8:30 I texted her asking if she would be over soon. No response. At 8:45 I told her I was hungry and bored and a bunch of my friends were going to a dance party and I had no idea if she was coming so I didn't know what to do. Around 9 she texted me that she felt awful that she was taking so long and she could meet me where ever. I asked her where she was, apparently she's at a bar near her house with her friends. Like, not on her way over, not dealing wbith some crisis, just drinking with her friends. She offered to pay for my cab over there but at that point I stopped responding. She just called me and I didn't pick up...like I don't want to have some conversation with someone I've known for two weeks about why I'm mad at them, you know? You have to do that shiitake with girlfriends sometimes but I don't want to have a dramatic talk about why I'm upset. So now I'm all dressed up and bored in bed. And I don't really want to go to the dance party because it's too far, I was totally bluffing.

Oh and I had plans last night with a friend and she flaked with me, and the same thing happened last Friday and Saturday night!

I AM EXCHANGING DRAMATIC TEXTS WITH SOMEONE I'VE HUNG OUT WITH FOUR TIMES. I should probably just date boys.

Hugs.

But to be honest, don't ditch the ladies because of this. She just sounds rude. I mean, who says no to you, a kitten AND cocktails, for fork's sake. (Any sane person would be happy with one out of three, pffff.)



Oh and I saw Her again yesterday, and we kissed and she's so soft and prrfblladsfsfieoreorwepr. Yes.

I haven't actually dated a boy in four years or something, I am pretty attached to ladies. There was more stuff after that, she spent a long time convincing me to let her come over and offered to bring dessert and a movie and stuff...but I would have been annoyed at the whole time so it didn't sound that fun to me. Then she wanted to at least talk in person after I basically told her that I was annoyed and then she at least wanted to talk on the phone and I was like, we can talk tomorrow. AAAAHHH. It feels like some stressful weird fight I would have with a girlfriend. It's not supposed to be like that after two weeks!

There is little chance that she is going to change over time so I would cut ties with her and move on. Generally, people show you their best side in the early stages of a relationship and if this is what she's got...

She ended up getting really really apologetic later in the night, I don't know if she was really drunk before and sobered up, or for whatever reason suddenly realized that I was legitimately upset and had good reason to be. I ended up agreeing to breakfast this morning. We'll see if she wakes up and remembers! At very least I'm assuming she's paying so that's nice.

Date with Australian guy was all right but we got kind of drunk and not much fun followed. Won't see him again other than to return his umbrella he forgot here.
I think I'll just stick to the two guys I'm seeing almost regularly, I had a crazy month and now it's enough getting to know new people.

Fifty Shades of Anek :) You're having quite the exciting sex life these days :)