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I hadn't gone to my okcupid in a long time but someone sent me a message a couple of days ago that just said "hubba hubba" in the subject line, and it made me laugh. I think I should actually contact him.

I was afraid of this thread on the old boards, but it's all new now and there aren't 50 million gazillion posts!

Also, someone who seems reasonably cool and intelligent, and lives in Philly, AND is vegan and queer and poly, is currently hitting on me on OKCupid. Nobody ever hits on me! I don't know what to do!

There ain't a thing wrong with "Okay, bye." It sounds like it was fun otherwise!

My one cousin and I always laugh and say, "No touching please; we're Pennsylvania German," when a stranger touches one of us (generally we wait until they leave though), but there's some truth to it. I think we were just raised with a huge respect for others' space. Not everyone is into immediate touchy-ness and it just doesn't cross everybody's mind to touch someone they just met. It doesn't mean they don't like you!

C'mon! See him agaaaain!

Some guy offered to teach me how to do the cryptic crossword if I went on a date with him.
Tempting, but no.

I also met up with this guy from OKC who tutors at my university. As a friend thing, not a date thing. Anyway since I impressed him by appearing to be such a nerd, he wants to teach me to play DnD...

Hit on them back! Assuming you are interested, of course.


I don't know, I kind of need a hug. I am not into stranger-touching or pda, but if I dig someone I will at least hug them. I was a perfectly nice lunch and I would see him again if he asked, but I just don't think it's going to happen. I didn't get that vibe.

my date last night went so well :) He enjoyed the sushi and loved my pie :-D We played Scrabble and I won by a lot, but I think a lot of that had to do with me getting all the big point letters. Then we "watched the Dark Crystal" (sorry, interrobang?!, I've moved on from "watching Dr Who")

I'll bet he did.

hah. there was real pie..apple pie...yum :)

You mean something like exchanging and listening to youtube links of for instance 80's and 90's hits during chat?

(if so, what are you doing saturday evening? ;) )

Wow, within FIVE MINUTES of changing my location to my current area, I was IMed with this:

"Hi, here's a question for you, are you submissive or dominant?"

OH okcupid, how I love you.

My second date with the aforementioned guy was even better. Thai food, an epic 2 1/2 hour makeout session, and falling asleep watching videos and cuddling. shiitake, he's awesome.

Oh, also, he's over a foot taller than me, which is kinda hilarious.

One word can sum up stuff at the moment...rubbish.

I really like the idea behind this site: http://alikewise.com/

Alas, I am way too shy/awkward to ever intentionally sign up to a dating site.

Dude! Jealous. That's awesome. And I can relate to the hilarity, I am 5' tall and whenever I go out with someone who's 6'+ I think we must just look so ridiculous walking around together.


<--- is intrigued. Except that searching for my favorite author turned up ONE guy in my area. Wow.

There's one for music, too: http://tastebuds.fm/

It seems to have the same problem, though; a search of a couple of my favorite bands only turned up six people. In a major city. Six. I guess that's the way of niche sites.

so I've been texting this guy too much. I have 5000 a month, am 4 days into my cycle, and have over 900...oops.

I wonder how it would go over if the reply was "Oh, I'm neutral."

I'm Switzerland in the sack.

I've been dating my boyfriend Adam since we met on OkCupid more than a year ago. To date, we haven't gotten in a fight or had any actual conflict in the relationship, and I can't see myself being with anyone else.

It was kinda really worth sifting through all the d-bags to get to him. <3

Really like the guy I had a 2nd date with this weekend...hope to see him again soon!

On a funnier note I got this message the other day: "Wanna make a few hundred for non-sexual entertainment tonight? Requirements: Know how to flirt, have your own car or ride, own knee high boots, & can meet me at 7pm"

um, yea dude...sign me up. freak

Aww, yay! I love success stories. Rub some luck all over this thread, lady!

aww...cute :) I love hearing stories like this!

the guy i've been hanging out with the past few weeks just came over to break it off. ...and here i was worried he wanted to be my boyfriend! i'm still kind of annoyed though because i was having fun. meh.

I'm in need of a little advice. So, if I've been on a couple of dates with a guy (3 if you count the initial coffee meeting), but I'm not really feeling it, how do I break things off nicely? Is email okay if we've never talked on the phone and our dates never got overly physical (a little kissing)? What do I say? Just something generic like, "I don't think things are going to work out, but I had a really nice time hanging out with you. Sorry, and thanks"? That seems overly terse, even for me, but I also don't want to get too elaborate and go down the TMI route.

I'm probably putting too much thought into this, but I don't want to be a jerk. I've had one or two guys just flake out on me, and even if I wasn't that keen on them, it's not a great feeling.

(Also, this isn't the awesome cuddler I wrote about earlier. He's a keeper. Swoon!)

I know a few married couples who met on OKCupid.

I think that sounds fine. "I've had fun hanging out but I don't feel like this is really going anywhere romantically. All the best, cherryblossom." I'd rather get the "thanks but no thanks" note via email than over the phone anyway, and you've only gone out a few times - it's not like you owe him a heart-to-heart.

I just received the following message:

"I might feel talkative about [boring stuff] should someone buy me a Duvel at a quiet table at the [boring-snob bar]. "

THis is a guy I chatted with a little bit because I'd forgotten to turn the chat function off, and in a rare move uncharacteristic of me, I didn't ignore him. A few minutes into the conversation, I blatantly made fun of him for being a narcissist who wasn't paying attention to anything I said. He didn't get it, I left.

Two weeks later: dude wants me to buy him a drink.

Gross.