| Register  | FAQ  | Search | Login 
It is currently Wed Jul 23, 2014 9:17 am

All times are UTC - 6 hours [ DST ]




Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 5839 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1 ... 218, 219, 220, 221, 222, 223, 224 ... 234  Next
Author Message
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sun Mar 16, 2014 8:40 pm 
Offline
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Tue Jan 11, 2011 8:03 pm
Posts: 2211
Location: I can't believe it's not England!
solkiki, Ah, first several makes lots of sense! Definitely after the first couple of times seeing each other if it's not an enthusiastic yes, I want to hang out with you, I give them the boot. (Funnily enough a guy I messaged recently has a link about that concept which I find helpful. he's also vegan so who knows, maybe he'll see this and won't that be embarrassing or awkward)

Ashley, sorry to hear you have to let someone down. That always sucks. It sounds like he's got some work to do on himself as well. Tried and true honesty is usually the way to go.

_________________
"Vegan to me means Oreos for breakfast." -Poopiebitch
"tl;dr: I quit working to drink beer paid for with gift cards" erikasoyf*cker


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Mon Mar 17, 2014 3:32 am 
Offline
Has Isa on speed dial

Joined: Mon Jul 08, 2013 7:12 am
Posts: 83
laura8it wrote:
I'm derailing the conversation to post a good news story. This thread (among a few other things) inspired me to make an OKC profile last month, just to meet new people and try different activities, restaurants, etc. While I certainly got the creepy and sometimes hilarious messages from people with a 10% match, I also got a number of messages from nice, interesting guys. I went out with three of them: one was a dud, one was fun but there wasn't any chemistry, and one was GREAT. We've been hanging out 2-3 times a week for the past three weeks and every time is more fun than the one before. I won't bore you with my high-octave, girly-voice gushing about this dude, but I just wanted to share a success story. Oh, and he cooked me vegan dinner last week, and liked it so much that he made the dish again this weekend. So if nothing else, I'm being a good vegan-evangelist.


Congratulations, Laura! I can throw my own success story into the mix: I started online dating in December, went on a few dates with a nice-but-dull guy, then met someone amazing. We've been seeing each other for 2 months now and it just keeps getting better and better. We're even planning a weekend away soon. Woot!


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Mon Mar 17, 2014 7:28 am 
Offline
Addicted to B12 Enemas
User avatar

Joined: Wed Mar 05, 2014 3:36 pm
Posts: 265
lillianp wrote:
solkiki, Ah, first several makes lots of sense! Definitely after the first couple of times seeing each other if it's not an enthusiastic yes, I want to hang out with you, I give them the boot. (Funnily enough a guy I messaged recently has a link about that concept which I find helpful. he's also vegan so who knows, maybe he'll see this and won't that be embarrassing or awkward)

Ashley, sorry to hear you have to let someone down. That always sucks. It sounds like he's got some work to do on himself as well. Tried and true honesty is usually the way to go.


That's right you never know who's reading this! ;)

I'm sorry to hear Ashley. It's never nice to let someone down. He probably knows already in a way, but good luck.

_________________
https://www.etsy.com/ca/shop/Solkiki for stone ground, bean-to-bar, vegan, white, milk and dark, caramel and raw chocolate:
Like our new Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Solkiki/ ... 556?ref=hl
Low cost international shipping


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Mon Mar 17, 2014 7:30 am 
Offline
Addicted to B12 Enemas
User avatar

Joined: Wed Mar 05, 2014 3:36 pm
Posts: 265
jennyc wrote:
laura8it wrote:
I'm derailing the conversation to post a good news story. This thread (among a few other things) inspired me to make an OKC profile last month, just to meet new people and try different activities, restaurants, etc. While I certainly got the creepy and sometimes hilarious messages from people with a 10% match, I also got a number of messages from nice, interesting guys. I went out with three of them: one was a dud, one was fun but there wasn't any chemistry, and one was GREAT. We've been hanging out 2-3 times a week for the past three weeks and every time is more fun than the one before. I won't bore you with my high-octave, girly-voice gushing about this dude, but I just wanted to share a success story. Oh, and he cooked me vegan dinner last week, and liked it so much that he made the dish again this weekend. So if nothing else, I'm being a good vegan-evangelist.


Congratulations, Laura! I can throw my own success story into the mix: I started online dating in December, went on a few dates with a nice-but-dull guy, then met someone amazing. We've been seeing each other for 2 months now and it just keeps getting better and better. We're even planning a weekend away soon. Woot!


Yay Jennyc! That's great! :)

_________________
https://www.etsy.com/ca/shop/Solkiki for stone ground, bean-to-bar, vegan, white, milk and dark, caramel and raw chocolate:
Like our new Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Solkiki/ ... 556?ref=hl
Low cost international shipping


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Mon Mar 17, 2014 1:49 pm 
Offline
Because Bob Barker Told Me To
User avatar

Joined: Wed Oct 20, 2010 1:27 pm
Posts: 918
Location: Albany, NY
I've been trading long, interesting, and swoon-worthy messages with a guy who lives really far away and is very clear in his profile about not having time for anything beyond friendship due to work/school commitments. So, nothing is going to happen (other than awesome friendship, which I'm excited about), but I keep daydreaming of us falling in love and him moving his family of all-male cats into my family of all-female cats and us having a feline Brady Bunch family.

_________________
Departure & Arrival: Photoblog
Navigator, Equator: Personal blog
My freelance writing website
Dear Nora: My cat's advice column (really)


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Mon Mar 17, 2014 4:55 pm 
Offline
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Tue Jan 11, 2011 8:03 pm
Posts: 2211
Location: I can't believe it's not England!
Jennyc, that's awesome! I'm currently to try embracing living without fear about meeting new people and throwing myself into new situations (within reason/caution etc) and have been unafraid to just message guys, especially when okc says 'it's a match!' So now I have my second date in 2 weeks (a different guy) and am messaging another guy! And stopped responding to a guy I'm pretty sure I'd decide was an asparagus. So I'm calling my outlook on life a win, even if none of them go anywhere.

_________________
"Vegan to me means Oreos for breakfast." -Poopiebitch
"tl;dr: I quit working to drink beer paid for with gift cards" erikasoyf*cker


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Tue Mar 18, 2014 9:03 pm 
Offline
Heart of Vegan Marshmallow
User avatar

Joined: Wed Oct 20, 2010 3:25 pm
Posts: 3025
Location: Sacramento
Yay, lillianp! Good luck!

The vegetarian guy I went out with on Saturday texted me today and asked me out again. We're having dinner Thursday night. That was the guy I felt was smarter than me. I guess I didn't make a terrible impression.

Still haven't ended things with the other guy yet. I know I really need to just do it.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Wed Mar 19, 2014 1:55 am 
Offline
Has Isa on speed dial

Joined: Mon Jul 08, 2013 7:12 am
Posts: 83
Thanks guys!

Ashley, I dithered in a similar fashion when I had to end things with the first guy I met off OkCupid. We'd had 3 dates and I knew it wasn't going anywhere, but was terrified of actually telling him so. I waited for him to get in touch with me, and then texted him back to say that as nice as he was I just didn't think we had enough in common, but that it had been good getting to know him. He sent back a little text to say he understood and that was it. Painless in the end! You can do it!


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Wed Mar 19, 2014 8:24 pm 
Offline
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Tue Jan 11, 2011 8:03 pm
Posts: 2211
Location: I can't believe it's not England!
You can do it Ashley!

I now have 2 dates in 3 days. And had one last week. And another guy I need to message back! Guys, what IS this? Last time I was on it was nowhere near as hopping for me. I guess it's probably the fact that I'm not afraid to message guys. And they're all nice! And some of them write back! I think I've grown my self confidence enough that it's helping.

_________________
"Vegan to me means Oreos for breakfast." -Poopiebitch
"tl;dr: I quit working to drink beer paid for with gift cards" erikasoyf*cker


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Thu Mar 20, 2014 1:03 pm 
Offline
Huffs Nooch

Joined: Sat Oct 23, 2010 10:16 am
Posts: 124
Location: Detroit
jennyc wrote:
Thanks guys!

Ashley, I dithered in a similar fashion when I had to end things with the first guy I met off OkCupid. We'd had 3 dates and I knew it wasn't going anywhere, but was terrified of actually telling him so. I waited for him to get in touch with me, and then texted him back to say that as nice as he was I just didn't think we had enough in common, but that it had been good getting to know him. He sent back a little text to say he understood and that was it. Painless in the end! You can do it!


I second this. I went on two dates with a guy and we'd been talking a lot, but I just wasn't feeling it. I tried ignoring him for a few days, but he didn't take the hint. I was ridiculously nervous sending my "It was nice talking to you but I don't think we have any chemistry" text, but he quickly wrote back something like "No worries, best of luck to you". It was THAT painless.

_________________
http://www.detroit-made.blogspot.com


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Thu Mar 20, 2014 2:40 pm 
Offline
Frees Bunny Slippers
User avatar

Joined: Wed Feb 23, 2011 3:16 pm
Posts: 168
Location: UK
lillianp wrote:
Favorite opener of the day from OKcupid: "When did you discover you were bi?" Why yes, I feel like sharing my sexual orientation self-labelling process with you, stranger without any pre-amble.



I got a similar question in a second message basically asking me how many men I'd been with vesus women.

Nope :/

Elsewhere, quiet dude is quiet. I'm exhausted thinking up things to say.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Thu Mar 20, 2014 8:50 pm 
Offline
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Tue Jan 11, 2011 8:03 pm
Posts: 2211
Location: I can't believe it's not England!
I just had a REALLY good first date with a guy. Such a great personality that it overrode his somewhat average (to me) looks and I think he's SO cute. And it was really really good and I'm so charmed by him. And now that it's over I'm having post-date jitters where I worry and pick everything apart. I need someone to tell me it will be ok no matter what.

_________________
"Vegan to me means Oreos for breakfast." -Poopiebitch
"tl;dr: I quit working to drink beer paid for with gift cards" erikasoyf*cker


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Thu Mar 20, 2014 10:52 pm 
Offline
Heart of Vegan Marshmallow
User avatar

Joined: Wed Oct 20, 2010 3:25 pm
Posts: 3025
Location: Sacramento
lillianp wrote:
I just had a REALLY good first date with a guy. Such a great personality that it overrode his somewhat average (to me) looks and I think he's SO cute. And it was really really good and I'm so charmed by him. And now that it's over I'm having post-date jitters where I worry and pick everything apart. I need someone to tell me it will be ok no matter what.

Yes, go you!! I totally get the post-date jitters but he's probably feeling the same thing. Totally normal and you WILL be okay no matter what. Can't wait to hear what develops. And either way, you had a good time, so that makes it a win.

I just had my second date with the vegetarian. I felt a little iffy after date #1, but now I'm sold. Good conversation, laughter, lots in common, and he folded up the tip money like sea turtles. I am cautiously optimistic because I don't like to get my hopes up about anything, but I definitely want to see him again.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Fri Mar 21, 2014 5:55 pm 
Offline
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Thu Oct 28, 2010 1:43 pm
Posts: 2393
Location: In some dumb hotel in an equally dumb town...or in San Diego
So I notice today that OKC has a section that says "who likes you". I click on that and it says 6 people do, but it won't show them to me unless I'm a paying member. I start thinking "Hmm, I have gone through the rounds and rated a fair amount of ladies I'm interested in, but haven't contacted yet because the idea of trying to talk to multiple people while being charming and attentive doesn't quite work for me." I'm sort of a one girl guy in a lot of ways. So maybe some of the ladies I like had liked me too (how utterly forking high school it all is). Anyways, I join up to be a paid member, and besides the one girl I have been chatting with, the other 5 are people who have nothing in common with me at forking all.

Kudos OKC...You have earned my 45$

_________________
http://dumbveganfoodblog.blogspot.com/


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Fri Mar 21, 2014 6:41 pm 
Offline
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Tue Jan 11, 2011 8:03 pm
Posts: 2211
Location: I can't believe it's not England!
I am such an overanalyzer allatimes. He texted me late last night but nothing since so of course to my crazy brain that means he's lost interest. (A whole 24 hours has passed, omg /sarcasm) all will be well, i have a date with another guy who seems very sweet tomorrow which i am looking forward to.

_________________
"Vegan to me means Oreos for breakfast." -Poopiebitch
"tl;dr: I quit working to drink beer paid for with gift cards" erikasoyf*cker


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sat Mar 22, 2014 2:02 am 
Offline
Has Isa on speed dial

Joined: Mon Jul 08, 2013 7:12 am
Posts: 83
lillianp wrote:
I just had a REALLY good first date with a guy. Such a great personality that it overrode his somewhat average (to me) looks and I think he's SO cute. And it was really really good and I'm so charmed by him. And now that it's over I'm having post-date jitters where I worry and pick everything apart. I need someone to tell me it will be ok no matter what.


Aw, don't worry lillianp! I'm also a huge over-analyser. After every early date with my guy I would get on the tram home feeling giddy and happy, then by the time I got back I'd have convinced myself that it was a disaster and he wasn't into me and I'd made a total fool of myself.

He also wasn't a frequent texter, which made me worry that he just wasn't thinking of me much between dates. As the relationship has become more serious his texting habits have really changed. Now that I'm not in doubt of his affection, I can see that it was actually quite nice not to inundate each other with texts right from the start - my previous relationship became very serious very quickly, so I liked easing into it this time and taking our time to get to know each other.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sat Mar 22, 2014 5:28 am 
Offline
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Tue Jan 11, 2011 8:03 pm
Posts: 2211
Location: I can't believe it's not England!
jennyc wrote:
lillianp wrote:
I just had a REALLY good first date with a guy. Such a great personality that it overrode his somewhat average (to me) looks and I think he's SO cute. And it was really really good and I'm so charmed by him. And now that it's over I'm having post-date jitters where I worry and pick everything apart. I need someone to tell me it will be ok no matter what.


Aw, don't worry lillianp! I'm also a huge over-analyser. After every early date with my guy I would get on the tram home feeling giddy and happy, then by the time I got back I'd have convinced myself that it was a disaster and he wasn't into me and I'd made a total fool of myself.

He also wasn't a frequent texter, which made me worry that he just wasn't thinking of me much between dates. As the relationship has become more serious his texting habits have really changed. Now that I'm not in doubt of his affection, I can see that it was actually quite nice not to inundate each other with texts right from the start - my previous relationship became very serious very quickly, so I liked easing into it this time and taking our time to get to know each other.


Yes! That makes sense-I think he's not a frequent texter either and funnily enough I turned my phone on and he had texted me in the hour and a half I turned it off to make my brain less crazy. I definitely think exploring this and not getting all overly-attached overly quickly is a GOOD thing, I just have to get the anxious part of my brain on board. (Which just means talking about my anxiety here/with close friends so that I can avoid acting on it)

_________________
"Vegan to me means Oreos for breakfast." -Poopiebitch
"tl;dr: I quit working to drink beer paid for with gift cards" erikasoyf*cker


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sat Mar 22, 2014 11:08 am 
Offline
Heart of Vegan Marshmallow
User avatar

Joined: Wed Oct 20, 2010 3:25 pm
Posts: 3025
Location: Sacramento
I have mixed feelings about texting. I sort of hate doing it, and I really hate being expected to be responsive all the time, but then I get all anxiety ridden when I don't hear from people and take it personally. Most of the time it's all in my head.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sun Mar 23, 2014 5:38 pm 
Offline
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Tue Jan 11, 2011 8:03 pm
Posts: 2211
Location: I can't believe it's not England!
Ashley-I totally get that. I'm a happy texter but I know other people are sporadic-this guy totally is. Which is fine now that a) I know that and b) am a little more assured of his interest! (There was cookie making, a 7 hour date and some makeouts). Basically what it means is it's totally my own anxiety and I need to own it and accept that other people's styles and actions aren't always a reflection of how they feel about me but also even if they decide they aren't interested, I am going to be just fine.

_________________
"Vegan to me means Oreos for breakfast." -Poopiebitch
"tl;dr: I quit working to drink beer paid for with gift cards" erikasoyf*cker


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sun Mar 23, 2014 5:53 pm 
Offline
Heart of Vegan Marshmallow
User avatar

Joined: Wed Oct 20, 2010 3:25 pm
Posts: 3025
Location: Sacramento
That sounds like an awesome date!


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Mon Mar 24, 2014 9:03 am 
Offline
Frees Bunny Slippers
User avatar

Joined: Wed Feb 23, 2011 3:16 pm
Posts: 168
Location: UK
So a few of the people I'm been contacted by have started giving me short, dead-end messages and yet they still seem to want to talk. I'm tired of doing work thinking up topics! Maybe I'm just more chatty than I ever realised.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Mon Mar 24, 2014 9:09 am 
Offline
Addicted to B12 Enemas
User avatar

Joined: Wed Mar 05, 2014 3:36 pm
Posts: 265
Hazel wrote:
lillianp wrote:
Favorite opener of the day from OKcupid: "When did you discover you were bi?" Why yes, I feel like sharing my sexual orientation self-labelling process with you, stranger without any pre-amble.



I got a similar question in a second message basically asking me how many men I'd been with vesus women.

Nope :/

Elsewhere, quiet dude is quiet. I'm exhausted thinking up things to say.


Lol. I used to get so tired of the 'what's your number' (meaning with how many men I've been with, not phone number) question. Ofcourse not as exciting as it must be for them to ask you the number question ;)

_________________
https://www.etsy.com/ca/shop/Solkiki for stone ground, bean-to-bar, vegan, white, milk and dark, caramel and raw chocolate:
Like our new Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Solkiki/ ... 556?ref=hl
Low cost international shipping


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Mon Mar 24, 2014 3:36 pm 
Offline
Heart of Vegan Marshmallow
User avatar

Joined: Wed Oct 20, 2010 3:25 pm
Posts: 3025
Location: Sacramento
Haven't heard from the guy I went out with on Thursday. That was the second date and I felt like it went well. I guess maybe he didn't agree? Oh well...


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Mon Mar 24, 2014 3:50 pm 
Offline
Plays The Sims 2 religiously
User avatar

Joined: Wed Oct 20, 2010 11:20 pm
Posts: 7124
Location: Portland, OR
ashley wrote:
Haven't heard from the guy I went out with on Thursday. That was the second date and I felt like it went well. I guess maybe he didn't agree? Oh well...

Well, has he heard from you?

_________________
i would schmear marmite on a moist scrotum for Mars. - interrobang?!
"Not everything." ~ mumbles (1973-2013) - mumbles


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Mon Mar 24, 2014 4:08 pm 
Offline
I Wanna Dip My Balls In It
User avatar

Joined: Wed Oct 20, 2010 10:37 pm
Posts: 3311
Location: idontevenknowanymore
Mars wrote:
ashley wrote:
Haven't heard from the guy I went out with on Thursday. That was the second date and I felt like it went well. I guess maybe he didn't agree? Oh well...

Well, has he heard from you?

1000 times this

_________________
reap/sow, risk/reward


Top
 Profile  
 
Display posts from previous:  Sort by  
Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 5839 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1 ... 218, 219, 220, 221, 222, 223, 224 ... 234  Next

All times are UTC - 6 hours [ DST ]


Who is online

Users browsing this forum: missmuffcake, monkeytoes and 10 guests


You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum

Search for:
Jump to:  
Powered by phpBB © 2000, 2002, 2005, 2007 phpBB Group
Template made by DEVPPL/ThatBigForum and fancied up by What Cheer