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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Tue Apr 29, 2014 7:28 pm 
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he was in standstill traffic and had a *horrific* day. As I responded to him, I would have appreciated more notice. He sent a text about 1 minute before the meeting time, right after I sent a text letting him know where to find me. But it's a combination of signals that are telling my gut to move on. Including an early question from him asking if I was looking for a serious relationship, as he pointed out that he was *much* younger than me. (10 yrs).


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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Wed Apr 30, 2014 12:00 pm 
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Yeah nope. If he was actually in standstill traffic he would have known way sooner than 1 minute prior to the date.

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Wed Apr 30, 2014 12:28 pm 
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Yup. Sounds like there's something up beyond just the traffic. If it were me, I'd be moving on.

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Wed Apr 30, 2014 12:48 pm 
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totally. he was trying to engage me, and I was tempted to respond but I think he might be into power plays. Moved on!

Anticipating a date this weekend with a very cute Peruvian guy, at least from the pics.


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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
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Dates 2, 3 &4 were good! This guy is hilarious!

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sun May 04, 2014 11:02 am 
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What do you do if someone messages you on okcupid who seems really funny and like someone you'd like to get to know, but you are just not attracted to them?


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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sun May 04, 2014 11:24 am 
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Meet up with them. I don't think pictures/text conversations always do people justice.

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sun May 04, 2014 1:37 pm 
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baps wrote:
Dates 2, 3 &4 were good! This guy is hilarious!


I have to say, I'm pretty glad you've been having some good dates! You have managed to find the worstest of online dating!

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sun May 04, 2014 1:50 pm 
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baps wrote:
Dates 2, 3 &4 were good! This guy is hilarious!


I have to say, I'm pretty glad you've been having some good dates! You have managed to find the worstest of online dating!

Haha yep I've met some real tossers!

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Sun May 04, 2014 6:02 pm 
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What do you do if someone messages you on okcupid who seems really funny and like someone you'd like to get to know, but you are just not attracted to them?

I've had this happen a few times. I arrange to meet the person and see how it goes. Sometimes it turns out they're more attractive than I thought. Sometimes in the "getting to know you" phase it becomes clear they're not as great as I thought.


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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
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joyfulgirl wrote:
Splendid wrote:
What do you do if someone messages you on okcupid who seems really funny and like someone you'd like to get to know, but you are just not attracted to them?

I've had this happen a few times. I arrange to meet the person and see how it goes. Sometimes it turns out they're more attractive than I thought. Sometimes in the "getting to know you" phase it becomes clear they're not as great as I thought.


Yeah, some people they just don't know what a good photograph is! They may look different enough in person that it is fine!

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
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Splendid wrote:
What do you do if someone messages you on okcupid who seems really funny and like someone you'd like to get to know, but you are just not attracted to them?


I agree with everyone else, it's always worth meeting up and seeing what they're like in the flesh. For me, attraction grows the more I get to know someone, so even if my first impression is that they're not really my type, if they're funny and interesting and wonderful enough I begin to see them differently anyway.

Baps, glad your dates are going well! It really does sound like you deserve it!


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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Mon May 05, 2014 9:19 am 
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Yeah, I don't photograph all well. My first okc date had a good photo in terms of composition, lighting, but I was like I dunno, could go either way, about attraction. In real life he was incredible (and he seemed to be similarly surprised by his first in person impression of me).
I am about to go on my second date with a cute lady who does not pick great photos. But she is very cute!

Also, maybe you'll make a friend, even if they're not a sexy friend.


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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
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I had no idea what to make of biker boy's looks based on his photos; he looked like two different people, for one thing. But I don't photograph well and he seemed nice and we had stuff in common so I (obviously) went out with him and it was pretty much love at first sight so...

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
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Clearly I spoke too soon and jinxed myself again. Oh well.

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Tue May 06, 2014 3:49 pm 
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baps wrote:
Clearly I spoke too soon and jinxed myself again. Oh well.


:( Sorry. What happened?


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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
PostPosted: Tue May 06, 2014 5:45 pm 
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Eh the usual. To be honest he saved me a job with his text! We spent the day together yesterday and I really wasnt digging him!

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
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Baps, I feel you! I had to end things with the guy I was seeing, the attraction wasn't there. In terms of life values/etc, we were really in sync but I just.. nothing. I wasn't attracted to him in the end (though I was earlier? Mostly due to personality, not looks) and was annoyed by some of his personality quirks and felt like it was too early to be annoyed by things like that. And it didn't feel right.

It wasn't a mutual breakup/end thingy so I feel kind of bad, but whatever. He'll get over it, I'll get over it and life goes on.

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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
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I was the same with the annoying habits. At first they were funny/cute but by the end of monday they'd really started to grate on me!

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I had an annoying date Monday night. The guy totally expected me to go to his apartment (we were in the park), and when I declined, he said he'd walk me back to the train. In hindsight, I'm not sure why I went along for that awkward walk, I could have gone another direction!

Meanwhile, right before we reached his block, he offered one more chance to go to his apartment! Uh dude, you blew it with the ultimatum, you really think I'm gonna change my mind now?


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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
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Welp, it sorta fizzled out with the lady I went on some dates with. She's very smart and nice but it wasn't totally clicking and the physical chemistry was pretty low for me.

Plus I realized being on OKC is sort of dumb because I am not even near looking to get into a relationship yet so I dont want to lead anyone on. Not that I think I have.

That being said, a girl I had chatted with back and forth awhile back started chatting with me again and now I have a rock n' roll date on Saturday. So I guess go me.

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AC get on Tinder! At least in my area, I think there are a lot of people who are not looking for relationships.


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 Post subject: Re: online dating (how r u 2day qt?)
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AC get on Tinder! At least in my area, I think there are a lot of people who are not looking for relationships.


Hmmm, while I like the sound of that I'm not sure my esteem could handle it. I'm more of the sort of person who has to grow on someone with my wit and charm...like a mold....a crafty mold specializing in the seductive art of the written word.

I fully realize in the looks department with nothing else to go on I'm not the sort that makes ladies initially think "I want that guys tongue in my mouth right now"

On OKC I can shine because the bar is pretty low since there are an army of lummoxes who can barely string sentences together or know how to initiate or progress a conversation. But when its all visual base, those lummoxes are damn handsome.

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So, I don't know if people really do this, but I've made an okcupid profile to look for more queer friends. I've set it up so that creepy straight guys can't see my profile... but it's weird. I feel like a weirdo trying to talk to anyone! I also accidentally found one of my friends on there and we're a 99% match haha.


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Adam Crisis wrote:
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crafty use of an obscure word! Hey I learned something today-- lummox = someone who is big and stupid


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