There's a thread about kidney donation here: viewtopic.php?f=25&t=11121
I'm sure you know this, but just as a reminder, there are many wonderful ways to help people that don't require sacrificing so much of yourself.
And yes, I know. It's probably not going to be anytime soon, because I *know* I would get an "uh-huh" and fail the psych evaluation at the moment because of grief. Anything that is a huge decision though I like to research thoroughly and make sure I understand it well.