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 Post subject: When things come together do you fall apart?
PostPosted: Mon Nov 29, 2010 6:24 pm 
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Do you guys ever find that when things start to come together for you... especially when you've worked hard to make them happen that it's hard to relax into it?

Things are happening for me that I can honestly say I used to dream of happening ... and I'm kind of at a loss at my reaction..

I have realized that I am a super perfectionist and it will drive me crazy if I let it.

aaaagggghhhh!!

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 Post subject: Re: When things come together do you fall apart?
PostPosted: Mon Nov 29, 2010 7:59 pm 
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Yes...I know the feeling. But then just when things are coming together, they completely fall apart again.....seems like once you get thru one bad thing, the next one is right around the corner.

at least with me it is...

Good luck though. And focus on appreciating the good while it's good!!!

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 Post subject: Re: When things come together do you fall apart?
PostPosted: Mon Nov 29, 2010 8:27 pm 
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WhiskersGal wrote:
once you get thru one bad thing, the next one is right around the corner.
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This is definitely me. I will pray and pray and beat myself up for one thing, then it will pass and be ok, but then there is something else to worry about that just plagues me. Neverending, never feel ok.

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 Post subject: Re: When things come together do you fall apart?
PostPosted: Tue Nov 30, 2010 7:08 am 
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It's interesting because in the past, I really believed that tragedy and drama was always around the corner, but over the past two years, I have really changed those beliefs.. but I find when I have the most success, my old beliefs try to come in and hold me down.

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 Post subject: Re: When things come together do you fall apart?
PostPosted: Tue Nov 30, 2010 9:09 pm 
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When this has happened to me, it's generally because I've hyper-inflated the impact and general effect that things will bring. I've become a lot more stoic in regards to how I deal with success and failures alike. Happiness is rarely a destination, but more of a condition that we have to actively maintain. I suppose you could say one of the challenges in life is getting to that point where all the unconscious anxieties and needs are kept to a minimal and manageable level.

The last thing you mentioned about the feeling of tragedy and drama; I totally empathize. I think it could be a form of self-sabotage. We sometimes fear failure, and it's easier to simply not try at all rather than go through the disappointment of succeeding and then failing again. However, as we do with the idea of happiness, we tend to hyper-inflate the ramifications of failing. If we keep a realistic view of both, then I believe it's easier to manage both when we encounter them.

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