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 Post subject: my yearly PSA about drinking and driving
PostPosted: Wed Oct 27, 2010 11:34 pm 
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First of all I am not doing this for sympathy - I just want people to think about their actions. I am sorry to sound like a broken record but if I can save someone the heartache of losing a loved one due to a stupid mistake then so be it.

My sister was killed by her friend drinking and driving in 2003 at the age of 23 on this day. Being my only sibling, she was 18 months younger than me we were close growing up. Things changed but even though I did not talk to her for a few months before she died it was no easier losing her...

Please hug the ones you love and do not get in a car with a driver who has been drinking.

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What better way could there be to honor your sister's memory than by an effort that may help save the lives of others. I'm often amazed at how casual people can be about drinking and driving. They need to hear your message. Thank you for posting and hugs to you and your family.

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*hugs*

you are doing a very good thing by posting this thread. thank you for sharing your story and i hope people take it to heart and respect others by not driving under the influence.

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Hugs to you and anyone else who has lost someone due to drinking and driving.


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Hugs to you!
It's a message that can't be repeated enough. Thank you for caring.


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thanks for the post. i'm sorry for the loss of your sister. may her memory be for a blessing.

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I know I've said it before but I am sorry for your loss, missmuffcake. It's something I am passionate about as well because a drunk driver killed my friend about 10 years ago. It's no joke, it's not something to be taken lightly and I appreciate your reminder messages.

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Hugs! And thanks for the reminder.

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I'm so sorry about your sister. I think it's a good thing to remind people how easy it is to spend the night at someone's house, call a friend for a ride, or call a cab instead of getting in a car drunk.


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I am so sorry.
This is a message that cannot be repeated too often.

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Hugs. Like others have said the message can't be repeated enough.


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xoxo mmcake. Thank you for posting this.


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 Post subject: Re: my yearly PSA about drinking and driving
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Thanks for the post. Too often people think they're sober enough to drive. When they're wrong, it can be deadly.


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missmuffcake and paprikapapaya, I'm so sorry for your losses.
Thanks for posting this.

It's always good to remind anyone and everyone - if you get a cab home, you can always get a cab back to your car the next day. Your life is worth more than cab fare.

If you've ever taken someone's keys, thank you. If you've ever wanted to but didn't, I've been there. I want you to know you can. And you should.

When I was 18 I went on spring break with a bunch of friends, we stayed near one girl's house in LA (I'll call her P). One night we were hanging out at P's ex boyfriend's, and about half the group was drinking. When we left his house, P insisted she was okay to drive, and furthermore that no one else could because it was her grandma's van.
My friend Jen said no, she was taking the keys. P was really really mad. Somehow Jen got the keys.

We got home safe.

P got over it.

I thanked Jen the next morning, for doing what I was too hesitant to at the time. For INSISTING.
I've never forgotten that.
Since, I've taken keys from people who were really angry. From people who were trying to punch me. Even from people I barely know. And I'll do it again, if I have to. You can too.

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 Post subject: Re: my yearly PSA about drinking and driving
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Hugs, missmuffcake and paprikapapaya, and thanks for the reminder.

Mack - you're absolutely right. I'd rather have an angry friend than one who hurt themselves or others.

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 Post subject: Re: my yearly PSA about drinking and driving
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Hugs missmuffcake and paprikapapaya.

When I was 10 or 11, my best friend and I went with another girl, her mom, and her mom's friend to the bowling alley. Both of the adults spent the entire time drinking. We couldn't exactly take their keys, but we called my friend's mom to pick us up. I think her mom was actually annoyed with us, but I felt better getting a ride home with someone sober, and I didn't give a shiitake about making them feel bad for getting another ride. When you take children somewhere, someone (other than the children) needs to stay sober. And people - beer counts too.

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blizzful wrote:
Thanks for the post. Too often people think they're sober enough to drive. When they're wrong, it can be deadly.


Many of the bars in the gayborhood have breathalyzers on the wall near the exit, for $1/blow. Although I think it should be free, and a lot of people use it to see how high it can go, I also know of people who actually do use it to make sure their BAC is well within the legal limit, and sleep in their cars more often than not.

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Thanks for putting yourself out there to remind people that the danger isn't abstract, it's real people who get hurt by people's careless decisions.

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 Post subject: Re: my yearly PSA about drinking and driving
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thanks for posting this missmuffcake.

my brother killed someone while driving drunk. It tore my family apart. It could have all been avoided so easily.

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thank you for a reminder that is needed. your story and the others here are all powerful and good for us to hear.


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 Post subject: Re: my yearly PSA about drinking and driving
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Hey Missmuffcake-

Thank you for posting this. Earlier this month I told you guys about my friend who died at the age of 22 in a motorcycle crash. What I didn't say was that he had been drinking.

It's been a hard month. Grief is complex enough as it is, and it gets even worse when you have the anger and blame associated with it. One ill thought decision can destroy the lives of so many. It was a slightly different situation with Adam- Bermuda lacks a public transport system and taxis can take hours to arrive. Not to excuse it of course.

All my love- you and your sister are in my thoughts.

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 Post subject: Re: my yearly PSA about drinking and driving
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Thank you guys and gals!

It is so brave for you to share your stories. People often think that people who die this way are not important...I tried getting grief counseling after my sister died at the hospice and was declined. They stated that 'it was her fault for getting in the car with a drunk driver'...Ya whatever - no one chooses to die this way.

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 Post subject: Re: my yearly PSA about drinking and driving
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Often when I watch American films or read American books I'm shocked by people getting in their cars after drinking. I just read that the US has a legal limit of .08% which I find insane. Sweden has a legal limit of .02% but I feel there should be zero tolerance. I think the main problem here is people getting behind the wheel the day after they've been drinking, not realising they still have (too much) alchol in their system.


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 Post subject: Re: my yearly PSA about drinking and driving
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missmuffcake wrote:
It is so brave for you to share your stories. People often think that people who die this way are not important...I tried getting grief counseling after my sister died at the hospice and was declined. They stated that 'it was her fault for getting in the car with a drunk driver'...Ya whatever - no one chooses to die this way.


That's horrible and completely cruel. I'm so sorry for your loss, missmuffcake, but thank you for posting this. Drunk driving is way too common and I don't understand why people think it's okay, or something to take lightly. I heard that in Japan, if you get pulled over once and are drunk, you lose your lisence for life...and so the rate of drunk driving accidents is tiny. Other places should really take their lead.

Hugs to you and everyone else who's lost someone to drunk driving.

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missmuffcake wrote:
Thank you guys and gals!

It is so brave for you to share your stories. People often think that people who die this way are not important...I tried getting grief counseling after my sister died at the hospice and was declined. They stated that 'it was her fault for getting in the car with a drunk driver'...Ya whatever - no one chooses to die this way.

what the fizzle?! That's horrible! Who cares what she did?? The point is that YOU are grieving. Even if someone committed suicide, it's still devastating to the family.


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