Post Punk Kitchen Forum

I think that's totally endearing, to be honest.

Went to a vegan potluck last night hosted by the guy I went on a date with on Friday. He's ADORABLE. Struggling with the fact that I also have a mild crush on one of his friends. And the conversation was so refreshingly political without being pointed/trying to solve the world. Just.. comfortably ranging from topics of religion to transgender/race issues and lots of other stuff. I've really been missing having friends who like having those kinds of conversations.

Thats a good idea! Then if she says "yes" I can just laugh and say "Tea is for losers, I dont date losers!...smell ya later" and walk away

The 'smell ya later' is key because it's a flippant remark but plants a seed of insecurity that could blossom into a complex that you could exploit far into stone fruit season.

knee deep in apricots and asparagus come June

It's times like this that I feel sorry for people who don't PPK.

word.

I have a crush on the ppk.

My #1 crush has been hanging out with a lady lately. My #3 crush is suddenly single again but he lives far, far away. My #2 crush is someone I shouldn't have a crush on in the first place.

That'll charm the pants right off all the co-op ladies.

That'll charm the pants right off all the co-op ladies.[/quote]

Those filthy Tea Wives are always easy

Me too.

Maybe I sort of have a small crush. It seems I'm feeling chatty tonight on the PPK.

As you people may or may not know, I teach at a company that offers private lessons for adults. I guess about this time last year I posted about a student I had that I was crushing on, and then he stopped taking lessons and we dated for a bit but that turned into terrible heartbreak and shittiness. And also, it was breaking the rules because I'm not supposed to date students/former students. So since then, I stick to the rules (and will continue to do so).

But. I've been teaching this one guy for about 6 months, and he's pretty much the sweetest and most thoughtful person ever. Adorkable. He went out and found vegan ice cream for me as a gift once, in addition to countless other really sweet things that he does. Also, I know he's single. Even though I know that nothing can happen and even if it could, it probably wouldn't because of the way we both are, I'm really happy that he's around and I feel kind of down if a week goes by without seeing him. The end.

Cute story :)

Adam raises a good question, but I consider my crush a crush even though we've had sexytimes because we're not in a 'relationship' per se and we're not really completely emotionally open with each other yet. I am kind of terrified of the thought of him knowing me more intimately, as I'm sure it terrifies him too.

I'm a little bummed out because our plans for a sleepover (our first) got shuttled after his work schedule exploded. He ended up coming over for dinner and some lazy cuddling, but he's working 11 days straight after today and I probably won't get to see him often, if at all. Plus during our time last night he told me that he'd had a phone interview for one of the jobs he'd applied for. A serious job, not his part-time spacefillers, that would utilize his degree(s) and move him 3 hours away. :/ So I'm happy for him, because I don't want him to be working so hard at jobs he obviously hates (customer service doesn't mesh well with his personality); but obviously I would be mega bummed for me/us if he had to move 3 hours away.

I'm getting super mixed signals from my crush and it's frustrating but I still like him anyway. I'm wondering if I should just be direct with him and tell him I like him (although I feel like I've been sending very clear signals that that is the case). I went back to his place after karaoke last night and him and his friend were playing music til late. I slept over in his bed again, but there was no making out this time because I passed out immediately. When I left he walked me out and gave me a hug. I texted later "thanks for letting me sleep over" and he wrote back "anytime :)" which is a little confusing to me. We still haven't hung out alone.

What is confusing about this?! This sounds so so much like he likes you.

i agree! he totally likes you, he's just shy or a slow mover. which means you should totally make the next move.


last wednesday, i went out for some fancy half price cocktails at a drag bar with my coworkers, to celebrate lady gaga's birthday by watching a lady gaga drag queen. (obviously, what else would anyone do on such a day?) my coworker invited one of her coworkers from her other job, who happens to be super cute and stuff and seems like she might well be queer. today is the first day i have seen my coworker who works with the cute lady in question, and before i left work i told her, "hey, i just want to put this out there, that *coworker of yours* is super cute." she responded, "yeah, isn't she cool? that's what everyone else said, too. we'll have to go there again."

uhhh, no. i did not say she was "cool", i said she was "cute" while making nervous shifty eyes. that means i want you to hook us up, duh.

I think of a crush as being someone you like but are not in a relationship too. I can have a crush on someone I have had sex with!

I guess I'm confused because I've been getting mixed signals from him. He has a very big personality and usually when I see him he's flirtatious, but we still haven't made plans to hang out alone and when i suggest that there's like a delay in his response. We did have plans about a week ago but he had to cancel because he wasn't feeling well. Meh.

I had a dream about Mind Crush (who didn't go out for a beer with me last time he was here), in which I told him off.
We're silly Europeans, so we always greet each other with pecks on the cheeks (unless surrounded by students). Anyway, in my dream, he paid us a surprise visit, and he came up to me and tried to kiss me on the lips. And I told him, if that's how you think it works, you're wrong. You can't just leave, never talk to me, and then turn up for a little while and think you can kiss me and then leave again. It felt pretty darn good.

Allover Crush is still going strong, even though we haven't seen each other in ages.

My guy and I are taking a break. We have both been thinking a lot about what we want from each other and in general. Neither of us want relationships but we still really like each other and enjoy each others company, the sex is also phenomenal. We have no intentions of pursuing anything further than what we are at this point but he spends a lot of time worrying more about potential outcomes, good or bad instead of focusing on what we have right now which is something pretty awesome. He is in a constant struggle with himself and it gets pretty frustrating. We had a talk about it on Tuesday and I pretty much told him I think he is fantastic, I have a great time with him, he makes me feel safe and comfortable and while I don't want to lose that I am very aware of what we are and will/won't be and I am okay with that because even though I know it will eventually come to an end, I don't spend my time thinking of when/how it will happen, I just enjoy what we have at this very moment. I pretty much left it with saying if/when he figures out if this situation/pseudo relationship is something he is comfortable in and wants to continue to call me but I'm not holding my breath and I'm not waiting around.

We have talked at work a little here and there since then, but not about us, just regular life conversations about my cold, baseball, etc. Things haven't been awkward which is good and regardless of what happens, I am totally okay with it. I'd rather keep him as a friend than nothing at all.

I think part of what the problem was is that as much as we don't want a relationship, it was sort of getting a little relationshippy, with him leaving pajamas and a toothbrush at my house, taking care of my dogs in the morning while I get ready for work and spending at least 4 nights a week at my place. At first it was awesome and I was always full of butterflies about us but that has slowly been fading. I'm just proud of myself for not running away from him like I do every other guy when it becomes more than just a super casual fwb sitaution.

In the meantime, I have reactivated my okc account

VFR, that is more relationshippy than what crushman and I have (and I think we were at about the same amount of time dating). I'm glad you didn't run away and that you two will be able to stay friends and not be awkward at work. It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. Maybe he does want a relationship and is telling himself he doesn't, or who knows... he needs to figure it out before he can be involved (in whatever capacity) in in a healthy way with someone as awesome as you.

Good luck with okc... you deserve someone who gives you butterflies!

quick update on my crush:
I'm still seeing crushman... we are at 7 weeks so I'm not sure how much of a crush he is anymore. We haven't had "the talk" yet, but we aren't seeing other people (I'm not and I'm 99% sure that he isn't). I might have to depart this thread soon if I can wrap my head around the fact that I might actually be in a relationship. I'm so glad he isn't in a rush to define or label anything while still getting to know each other so we can just enjoy each other and the time we spend together. I'm falling so hard for this guy that I'm not at all interested in or crushing on anyone else!

<3

I also told him that if we/he decides to continue this that we should take a step back and not spend as much time together. I'm half hoping that he will get his shiitake together because he is awesome and the sex is seriously the best I have ever had, it's gonna take a lot for someone to even come close to how good he is. But at the same time I don't want to deal with the frustration of him constantly struggling with himself. But the sex! the sex! ugh.

I think you guys should totally go for it! I only met him that one drunken night but he's super adorable and super sweet, clearly you adore him! And by everything you write in this thread it seems like you guys would be really great together! Luckily I know you IRL so if you stop posting here I can still get updates :)

I think I may have just realized that I have a crush on a friend of mine with whom I have an explicit we-do-not-have-crushes-on-each-other agreement. This could be very awkward if it doesn't blow over fast. It would basically be like having a crush on a sibling. No good can come of this.

Sometimes I get fleeting crushes that last a day or a week but it's not a situation where I would ever act on it and they typically go away.

Is there a reason you both have that agreement?