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Yeeehaw! Congrats! That's so awesome Friday!



I'm sort of being opposite soon. My gf bought a house with her mom and its too small for all of us so I'm moving into my own place and she's going in with her mom. We aren't breaking up, hopefully it all works out, but we won't be living together. Once I know I'm keeping my job and we won't break up (year or 2?) I'll maybe build a house on their land or even buy some land nearby, but either way, we are sort of taking a step back, but maybe it will be good. We did happen to move in super quickly so its probably okay so long as I don't freak out or something.

I plan on it! We had a first date last night and he's adorkable. (not a misspelling) We get along really well and spent maybe two and a half hours at a restaurant chatting about social justice stuff & vegan food & other awesome things.

He's also a nerd of the same caliber as me, which makes everything even more awesome. (more of a trekkie while I'm a browncoat. We're both Doctor Who fans, however)

Good luck lillian, he sounds pretty cool!

I haven't been having much luck with OKC lately so I decided to sign up for POF despite warnings from one friend (I have another friend who met her man on there and they seem very happy)... and I am so not feeling that site. I've got a ton of messages but they've been mostly crepe and I can't figure out how to find people I might actually want to talk to. I don't think this profile is gonna stay up long.

yeah I haven't been too impressed with POF. I get messages from guys who are into hunting and stuff like that, definitely not my type!

POF seems to be more popular with the patrons in the library. I don't know quite what that means exactly... I think that success has a lot of do with who in your area uses which service.

I hate to be such a freak about this, but I need help breaking the ice. I don't know how to do it! This one pescetarian guy (I'll take it!) on OKC seems really awesome and keeps on checking out my profile but he hasn't said anything. I should just message him but I keep drawing a blank with what to say.

Does anyone else feel like they're back in high school with this stuff?!

Mention something in his profile, a short paragraph is enough to get a conversation started.

i'm frustrated with OKC as well but i just don't know where else to turn. i get emails from match (i don't pay for that) and absolutely none of their "suggestions" appeal to me.

i still don't think i'm too picky; i'm just struggling to find a way to get what i'm hoping for.

Deleted my POF profile. fork that site. But I had a kind of nice date with a guy from OKC yesterday. We just sat in the park and drank coffee and had some decent conversation. He said he wanted to see my stand up (comedy) so I invited him to this open mic I'm going to tonight. He said he'd try to make it, so hopefully he will (especially since none of my friends can come with me so it'll just be me and comedians I sort of know). I also might go to a comedy show with him next week that his friend is doing.

Well, the guy on OKC that I had like a 96% match with snubbed me. Screw him.

Mostly getting garbage. Trading messages with a guy who's way too young for me to consider anything serious, but it's fun to have someone new to talk to. Kind of.

I'm not sure what I'll do at the end of the month. I think if I don't meet anyone that meets my criteria (even if it doesn't go anywhere) then I'll probably delete my account and go back to hoping that the universe drops Mr. Right into my lap.

Two vegetarians and a vegan in my area have suddenly appeared on OKC. I'm chatting to one of the veggies, seems like a grand sort of fella. The other veggie just keep staring at my profile, we're not a good match at all.

Aaaaand this is still going on!


The sporadic emails have now reached two months. My thing with catman seems to have spurred him on to finally ask me for a coffee. There have been two telephone conversations, which isn't working for me because he's on his bluetooth and I'm getting constant echo. We're both under a bit of stress atm too so I'm not sure that's helping. We've arranged two dates and he's had to cancel due to work (which is fair enough). I just don't feel that he's that interested in me, but then he has been emailing me for two months. I'm pretty sure he gets a lot of attention too, he's lush. I did say I was in no rush to get into anything but we've been arranging coffee for two weeks now and it looks like it's rolling into a third week, buh. Should I tell him he's cork blocking me from the other men with his faffing about?

I made an ok cupid test account to see whats happening around my area just for kicks....some of the top matches were people I know and sort of think theyre shitty people. eww

granted I only answered 25 questions

Hook me up with your profile!

done deleted it

when Im bored and feeling clever Ill probably make a real one, although Im not really looking for a GF or anything so thatll probably turn off the ladies

Adam, I have a blank one that I used to stalk Fezza and DDA. You don't have to put a picture or real information in it.

I met one person on OKC who I date sometimes. I don't really know what to make of the relationship if there is one. He is always glad to hear from me when I call or text but doesn't call me first. We get together, and he seems to like me. I deleted my OKC profile because I keep getting e-mails from men who enjoy hunting, or they want me to send pictures of my feet or other parts of my body.

My first and only email to an OKC cutie:
"I miss cheese too."
Jeez, do you think I should have expanded it a bit?!

i've made up a fake male OKC profile before. it was out of curiosity how that spectrum of the dating site might function. apparently i'm an 83% match to myself.

I may go on OKC again, don't know. POF is lame, a bunch of normals. You can't even be bi-sexual on that site as far as I can tell. I'm not having any luck in any of them really, I think I may just not be a good date.

I went on a POF date today, I'd seen him a couple times before, but it just was bleh. I have another on Wednesday with someone I've been messaging. It's no fun, but neither is being alone. I'm just filing it all away as funny stories for my memoirs (The Decline & Fall of Me, thank you to the Sparks for the title).

I went on Tastebuds, but my music taste is too weird. TransPassions is okay but all I get is people out of state or even country. I need to figure out how to meet people organically I guess. Oh well, chin up, only need one after all...

I am on OkCupid and have met some nice folks there. If anyone is curious, PM me and I will send you a link to my profile over there. :)

So I had a date with this guy from OKC a couple months ago. And it was a pretty good date, we had good conversation and he paid for my drinks, but we never made plans after that for whatever reason. Then just a couple days ago I got a message from him on there asking if I wanted to meet up again. I haven't been having much luck on OKC lately and he was cute and good to talk to, so I said sure. We've been trying to figure out a time to meet up for drinks this week, but we're both really busy so it's been a challenge. I got a text from him today saying he thought he saw me outside this place in the city, which is where I was on my lunch break today. He said he couldn't say hi at the time because he was having lunch with someone from work or something. But, since it turns out we're work neighbors this week (I'm only temping) we are going to get lunch tomorrow. Which is cool, because it's less pressure than a drink date and I am interested in seeing him again. So yay. Hopefully it goes well.

Here is a general update on my progress/social experiment/grist for my mill:

I've met about 3 wonderful penpals on the Passions network. I have a lot of time on my hands, so penpals are great.

I think I've met the One on tastebuds, but he lives in Brooklyn & I live in Phoenix. Plus, I mean, he probably only seems like the One because he lives in Brooklyn.

In the last week I've had two vegans randomly message me on POF & they are total catches, so if either of you are on here thanks? I'll be seeing you soon.

I'm still stuck on the first boy I met on OKC. He sends me lots of texts but never wants to make plans or come over any more. He is such a wonderful person I'm fine with just being friends or text buddies but I guess I still feel a bit raw about it. I feel like I met someone I could fall in love with that actually lives in town and he just slipped through my fingers. But then he'll text me. But then he doesn't want to see me. I don't even know what that's about, carry on.

And that's online dating for me. Still haven't re-opened OKC, too stuck on the one I have a crush on from there & don't want to see his face on it when I log in. I'm Dear Fountain on Tastebuds, POF, Trans Passions or any other passions network if anyone wants a date or chat. The end!

I am having absolutely no luck. It seems like all the messages I get are from guys that are in their mid-20's and that's just too young for me (32). People my age look but never say anything. I think I am just going to give up on meeting people this way and go back to wishing that I magically find Mr.Right as we simultaneously reach for the same bunch of kale or something...

I'm spending time with a 'Person of Interest' as I've been referring to him. We've got a lot of the same values, but I'm not sure there's a spark there and he hasn't made any moves to make it more than friendship. Of course, I could too, and I've tried little things so far with no luck. I'm actually messaging with two others and one is being kinda sexy-times flirty, so even if I'm not sure I'll want to date him for long, it's kind of exciting! It's really funny that I tend to get really dry periods followed by a few weeks of flurried flirty emails all at once.