Post Punk Kitchen Forum

"I believe the doctrine of the Mormon Church is true. One of the key doctrines of the church is that “marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.” Another is that “children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity.”

Being gay does not mean you are a sinner or that you are evil. Sin is in action, not in temptation or attraction. I feel this is a very important distinction. This is true for every single person. You don’t get to choose your circumstances, but you do get to choose what you do with them.

I won’t get into the boring details of the research here, but basically when sex is done right, at its deepest level it is about intimacy. It is about one human being connecting with another human being they love. It is a beautiful physical manifestation of two people being connected in a truly vulnerable, intimate manner because they love each other profoundly. It is bodies connecting and souls connecting. It is beautiful and rich and fulfilling and spiritual and amazing. Many people never get to this point in their sex lives because it requires incredible communication, trust, vulnerability, and connection.

(...)"free to be you and me" is not the lesson anti-gay religious conservatives are going to draw from Josh Weed's case. They will hold Weed up as proof that there's no need for marriage equality or domestic partnerships or civil unions—no need to recognize same-sex couples under the law at all—because all gay people everywhere should follow Josh Weed's example. Society should encourage each of us to find an opposite-sex partner who is willing to marry us and who we can either fork successfully while thinking about gay sex or whom we feel so strongly about that we 1. actually enjoy forking or 2. will claim we enjoy forking in blog posts that our opposite-sex partners help us write. Unicorn Marriages—Weed describes himself as a unicorn—will be pushed as Plan B for gays and lesbians who flunk out of ex-gay ministries.

I got to about here before my eyes started rolling uncontrollably



Oh, there's a correct way to "do" sex?

Basically any straight guy who wants a sex life that's as rich and fulfilling and amazing and spiritual and connected as the Gay Josh enjoys with Straight Lolly... should marry a gay dude. It's the only way to avoid powerful chems and infatuation and obsession and the rest of that actually-physically-attracted-to-your-spouse shiitake that, according to Josh, has wound up ruining the sex lives of most of the straight people that he personally knows.

You want a great sex life, straight boys? Take Josh's advice: find yourself a nice fag, someone you can connect with on a deeper level, and marry him.

fork you.

I have a list of favourite mumbles' quotes. This one shoots right to the top of the hit parade.

We should dump talking about hdog and talk about Mumbles instead. I'll see you on FB in 4 minutes.

I am sexually attracted to men. I am not sexually attracted to women. It is very simple. I have many, many years of experience which confirm this to be true, but it’s really as simple as what a girl asked me* in junior high—and I’m sorry if this is a little blunt, but I’ve never found a question that cuts to the heart of the matter more effectively— “so, if everyone in this room took off their clothes, would you be turned on by the girls or the guys?” My answer, which I didn’t say out loud, was unquestionably the guys. And it was unquestionably not the girls.

The odds are certainly stacked against them for that marriage working out long term.

Why did the woman marry him? Wouldn't she want to have married a straight man who was actually attracted to her not just to make proper, god-ordained babies and be in a proper, god-ordained family?

If I were that woman, I would feel like I was being used just to help make this guy feel like he wasn't a sinner. That's not cool.

I don't see this as a big deal. It sounds like he is a gay man in love with and attracted to a woman. I'm not a fan of the sin talk, but I don't think hisbeing gay is dooming his relationship. It's not like he has to fit in a particular box just because he is gay.

Homophobes are gonna be homophobes regardless of whether this guy sleeps with men or his wife.

I don't know...is it shitty? For sure. But...he's a religious gay dude who can't even begin to live honestly because his religion (and culture at large) is homophobic. I just feel sorry for him. It sounds like he's tried to reconcile his sexuality and his faith and has found a way that (for now at least) works.

As to the idea that homophobes will use this as justification for inequality, maybe. But their arguments don't actually stand on reason. They stand on outright bigotry. They don't need to point to this guy and say "see, gayz?! Marry a woman!", because all of their arguments stand on the "EWWW GAY" principle which is as far from reason and logic as possible. Homophobes are gonna be homophobes regardless of whether this guy sleeps with men or his wife.