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oh yes, I know. :-/

Just had a weird text interaction with someone I hung out with once...I was talking about hanging out again and also making silly jokes and she kept on replying to the jokes without actually addressing the "hanging out again" part so I gave up. Like are you waiting for me to suggest a place and time or are you just not interested and can't bring yourself to say it? Weirdo.

I should add that I'm not brokenhearted about this, she was paleo so that's weird, it just adds to my "no one ever wants to date me ever am I somehow a trainwreck on first dates and I don't know it" feelings.

Umm if I were just an awful annoying human being who no one in their right mind would want to go on a second date with y'all would tell me, right?

We'd tell you! And you're totes second date worthy.

My OkCupid statistics are so dismal though. Online dating is basically the worst thing I've ever done for my self-esteem. I just want to go on multiple dates with people and make out and stuff. My standards are so low, honestly, I would pretty much date anyone who wanted to date me, it's just that that is barely anyone.

I've had some big flops too, I just haven't mentioned them. It's shitty for sure.

This one time I met a nice woman on okcupid. We went to a board game cafe and, for some reason, ended up playing Bible Trivia. I won by a large margin and then she didn't want to go on a second date for some reason...

eta: Both atheists, so I don't remember how we chose it. I think we were just trying to choose a topic we'd be mutually bad at.

That's a really funny and cute story, sorry it didn't go anywhere after that.

I actually had another date with another person the very next day, which went significantly better and led into a 6 month relationship, so I wasn't particularly bothered by the outcome :)

Did you text her a bunch of made-up bible facts for days afterward? That's what I would have done. And then I'd know why we didn't go out again.



I know what you mean. The whole process is humiliating and hurtful. I've actually really liked everyone I've met so far through online dating, even if the romantic chemistry isn't necessarily there. It just sucks that in order to even get to that stage of meeting someone nice, I have to wade through a bunch of non-responses, or responses from people who don't know how to keep a conversation going, people who seem cool at first but then reveal something horrible, people who do respond but are mean about it (haven't had much of this, thankfully), people who don't get jokes....

The shitty thing (for me anyway) is that because of my weird anxiety shiitake, it's basically online dating or no dating at all. So I'm stuck with it.

Also, I'm new to these forums, but you seem pretty great and I hope you don't get too down on yourself because of all this.

Move to Portland and let's date!

(Yes I am that easy.)

If you were that easy, you'd move here. Bring a coat.

I went on a date and he talked about learning to cook vegan food for me. I am so torn between that being awesome and being all 'FIRST date, man. Chill the fork out!'.

Yeah, I had an experience like this on my one and only okc date (a year and a half ago). The conversation was interesting, but he had some serious boundary issues. He wanted a just add water Relationship. And to hang out the next day. And when I said I was busy the next day (and tried to set more reasonable boundaries to give him a shot to redeem himself, even though I was thinking more "friends" pretty much from the get-go) he still texted me the next day trying to hang out.

Then when I said I thought we were looking for different things and wished him well he implied I was immature and inexperienced. Apparently not complaining about several "crazy alcoholic exes" as humblebrags for what a great person one is for saving their blacked out selves from frat parties even though they were chronically unfaithful implies a lack of "experience." I disabled my account and avoided eye contact when I ran into him in bars.

He also immediately assessed his animal product consumption and laid out a 10 point plan for how he would become vegan over time and learn how to cook vegan food during this coffee date.

So, I say it's a warning sign of crazy, but that's just me. I'd rather a "oh that's nice" response to the vegan thing as opposed to a "let's immediately blur our identities into one" response.

It's food, run with the awesome.

I just had a really good date from someone from OKCupid. He's laid back and intelligent. Finally a guy who doesn't want to get married after the first date. Hanging out this Friday. Can't wait!

I love these posts. I tried online dating and felt the exact same way. I think I might give it another shot now that I know more folks feel this way.

HA. I will bring two.

So I was at this anniversary party yesterday for the academic bridging program I attended and anyhoo, a nice gentleman chatted with me for a while and when I left, gave me his business card and asked for mine (but I don't have one). Should I take this as a sign I should contact him? I am soooooo rusty with these things. But I think maybe he's interested?

Yes! Call him. He wouldn't give you his number for any other reason.

^Awesome, thanks! I have emailed him a short message saying how nice it was to meet him (his e-mail was on his business card, too) so we'll see what happens next.

Pretty sure that dude didn't mean to make that full nuddy body shot (including face) public when he was uploading it, judging by how fast he hid his profile after *bleaches eyeballs*.

The dating-two-people thing finally came to an end and no one got hurt. :) In other news, the roller derby goddess is my special lady friend now. ("Just two ladies, doing lady things.") She's hilarious, adores everything I cook for her, and tonight I'm coming along to her derby practice. (If you never hear from me again, it's not a malicious ex-lover, I probably broke my skull/arm/leg.)

Oh and something I never realized before, but I apparently do find it important that she's as much into my cat as I am. She adores Moos just as much as I do, despite the fact that she's actually allergic to cats. :)

Woohoo! Special lady friend!

I went on another date. I don't know! I just don't know. It wasn't horrible, it was actually fine, but I feel like first dates just won't ever compare to my first date with my last ex. But maybe it was that exciting because it was New Years? I don't know. Maybe someday I'll have a date like that one, or maybe I'm just not even ready to be open to a date like that. I'll hang out with her again, she was nice.

That's the problem. They are all decently nice and I'd like to see them again but I have a hard time seeing me dating aaaanyone. And maybe that's just my forever, I'm not meant to be coupled, but meet bunches of people. *shrug*