| Register  | FAQ  | Search | Login 
It is currently Thu Jul 24, 2014 10:39 pm

All times are UTC - 6 hours [ DST ]




Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 2824 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1 ... 78, 79, 80, 81, 82, 83, 84 ... 113  Next
Author Message
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Wed Nov 14, 2012 1:41 pm 
Offline
Married to the wolfman
User avatar

Joined: Wed Oct 20, 2010 9:49 pm
Posts: 5871
Location: Santa Cruz, CA
Audrey, I think that's great.

The Magician is going to daycare two full days a week now (Thursday and Friday) because I've gotten to the point where I just have to accept there's no way I can carry a full graduate course load with only 4 hours a week dedicated just to schoolwork (what I had been working on up til last week, yes really). I've been jamming an hour of work in here and there in time that I need to like, be sleeping, and it's just not working out so I increased my student loans so we can afford more childcare yaaaaay.

Overall it's a really good thing, but it means I really NEED to be pumping often. On Thursdays I drop off M at 9 a.m. and then I'm not physically with him again until I get home from classes at 11 p.m. That requires a shiitake ton of milk. Ugh. I don't have enough for tomorrow right now, and I'm trying to pump but between the bored 3 year old and the crabby baby and the fact that I was up all night with said crabby (teething, slightly fevery) baby last night, it's not going real well.

_________________
"Hummus; a gentleman's vice." -- Mars

coldandsleepy cooks, THE BLOG!


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Wed Nov 14, 2012 3:37 pm 
Offline
Wears Durian Helmet

Joined: Thu Sep 15, 2011 8:18 pm
Posts: 811
Can I whine about pumping here too? I am pretty much exclusively pumping now because Giles just refuses to latch and it was really affecting both my supply and my mood (We do one nursing session overnight). The LC I am sure was sick of having me call every week with my dismal updates and I was getting so anxious everytime we needed to nurse (which was ALL the time since he wouldn't actually take more than a few sips from the breast.) Anyway, I have been EP'ing now for about 4 weeks and pretty much everything about it sucks. I am not ready to throw in the towel yet, but I am definitely taking it on a week by week basis (current goal is to make it to 4 months which is next week!). My extra gripe about pumping is that for whatever reason it continues to ratchet up my supply to the point where I have started to leak again - boo.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Wed Nov 14, 2012 4:52 pm 
Online
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Thu Feb 17, 2011 10:13 pm
Posts: 2254
I'm sorry to hear that, annasrobbie. I can't imagine taking care of a baby and exclusively pumping. It's so draining (literally) to constantly be thinking about when to pump and how to fit it in, etc. I hate it too.

Audrey, I think that's great that you are cutting out the extra pumping session. I did that recently too, and it's made my life so much better! It's amazing how something like that can have a big effect. I think part of it is the relief I get from giving myself permission to use the stash or formula instead of feeling like I HAVE to pump enough.

I'm thinking a lot about how to cut out the pumping at work. I'm thinking when she is a year, which is next month, maybe? I'd like to be able to nurse before and after work only. I just am concerned that my supply will tank if I stop pumping during the day. Anyone ever had success with that?


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Wed Nov 14, 2012 4:57 pm 
Offline
Drinks Wild Tofurkey
User avatar

Joined: Sun Nov 07, 2010 7:06 pm
Posts: 2921
Location: Mke-ish
That's what I'm wondering... but I do know a handful of women who have done that successfully. I actually just asked my LC and she said she did the same and your body just adjusts.

BTW... you moms who are exclusively pumping are amazing! There's always momma guilt, but I like what c&s said once.... your baby needs to to be happy to be the best mom you can be (or something similar). 2 months, 4 months, whatever you can do is awesome and your baby is lucky!

_________________
*kdub's blog*


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Wed Nov 14, 2012 5:14 pm 
Offline
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Sun Apr 10, 2011 6:59 am
Posts: 2232
Location: Oxford, UK
annas, you are doing something amazing! I pumped about half the time (4 or 5x/day) during our troubles, and I was exhausted. I resented the time I spent attached to this machine, when I could be going for a walk, playing with Freya, having a shower. I dreamt about dropping the pump from a freeway overpass and watching it splinter into millions of pieces. I'm glad that I had the ways/means to rent a good pump, but I'm sure glad not to have to hear that ca-chunk, ca-chunk sound anymore. So...yeah, I digress. You're doing great! Have you talked to your LLL group in the area? If you're feeling frustrated with the LC, they may be a good resource.

@Audrey, I really think that's a brave decision. Really. I tell Karl sometimes that even now, I wonder if we made the right decision about pumping/breastfeeding, etc. because it can really take a toll on you. Keeping your own self sane can only help your baby, right? :)


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Wed Nov 14, 2012 8:52 pm 
Offline
Because Bob Barker Told Me To
User avatar

Joined: Thu Oct 21, 2010 9:00 am
Posts: 911
A friend of mine decided to stop pumping at work a few months ago, and her body totally got used to it and she's now able to breastfeed while she's home with her baby, and get through a 10 hour work day comfortably! It's possible!


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Wed Nov 14, 2012 10:34 pm 
Offline
Bathes in Braggs
User avatar

Joined: Wed Oct 20, 2010 8:11 pm
Posts: 1324
Location: Montreal
OH MA GOD. my boobs are giant scary porn star implants filled with fire instead of silicon. how come i forgot how much having your milk come in sucks? i'm so lucky Lydia is a good nurser, but i would give anything to have a ravenous 6 month old here to drain these bad boys.

OW OW OW :(


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Wed Nov 14, 2012 11:16 pm 
Offline
Married to the wolfman
User avatar

Joined: Wed Oct 20, 2010 9:49 pm
Posts: 5871
Location: Santa Cruz, CA
Ha ha ha ha... It is amazing how much you can forget.

Hope those milk monsters are under control soon LB!

_________________
"Hummus; a gentleman's vice." -- Mars

coldandsleepy cooks, THE BLOG!


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2012 1:06 pm 
Offline
And you never will.
User avatar

Joined: Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:41 pm
Posts: 4241
Location: Memphis
I'm just here to vent a little. poopiebaby is still a pretty hard-core nurser, and I am committed to sticking it out until I feel like he is ready to wean, but I definitely have days where I'm so ready to be done. Thankfully he's down to about 3 times a night, and about 3-4 times during the day, so it's gotten a lot less frequent the last couple of months and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I'm just frustrated because some days I hate it so much (especially right before my period, because my new post-baby PMS symptoms include incredibly sore boobs) and I can't be honest about it and just vent a little to my husband because his immediate response is "why don't you just wean him?" which isn't what I need to hear. I need him to say that I'm doing a good job and he's proud of me for nursing this kid for 2 years (and 4 months and 3 days... but who's counting?) and to stick it out because the good outweighs the bad and it is worth it. I've told him that's what I need to hear, but anytime I say anything negative he still brings up weaning, and it makes me wonder if he's right? Ugh. I need a hug, PPK.

_________________
I'm in a pure mood with poopietits now. Damn her jugs! - interrobang?!
give my you inquiries! and give poopie you burritos. - acr
Sometimes I think, it's really my lack of cybernetic implants that keeps me from being truly human. - Mars


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2012 3:42 pm 
Offline
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Sun Apr 10, 2011 6:59 am
Posts: 2232
Location: Oxford, UK
((hug))

Is Peter asking to nurse during the day still? Lots of the moms I talked to said that a "don't offer, don't refuse" philosophy gave them a good idea as to whether or not baby was really ready to wean.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2012 4:30 pm 
Offline
And you never will.
User avatar

Joined: Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:41 pm
Posts: 4241
Location: Memphis
Thanks for the hug! I never, ever offer, and very occasionally refuse if I'm busy or something, although I try to then nurse him as soon as possible. He's always been a very... eager nurser, I can't recall a time I've ever offered in his entire life, he's just always let me know :)

_________________
I'm in a pure mood with poopietits now. Damn her jugs! - interrobang?!
give my you inquiries! and give poopie you burritos. - acr
Sometimes I think, it's really my lack of cybernetic implants that keeps me from being truly human. - Mars


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2012 9:29 pm 
Online
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Thu Feb 17, 2011 10:13 pm
Posts: 2254
Poopie, I think you have done an amazing job nursing Peter. Counting the days seems natural to me, it can be really tough sometimes!

I really know nothing about weaning, but are you giving him soy milk or anything kind of replacement?


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2012 9:42 pm 
Offline
Semen Strong
User avatar

Joined: Tue Oct 19, 2010 7:10 pm
Posts: 18737
Location: Cliffbar NJ
((((Hugs!)))). That is the worst! You want support from your partner and instead he undercuts your resolve just when you're feeling vulnerable. I know you mentioned the same thing happened while you were birthing, so I expect that adds another level of hurt. (((Hugs))). My husband does that too sometimes - assuming you want a solution instead of to be heard and validated.

_________________
But on a cold winter night, when the wind whispers through the trees and a bright, white moon hangs heavy in the air, you might hear a sad cry like someone thinking he knows what's best for you, and that'll be the white man a-passin' you by. just mumbles


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2012 10:50 pm 
Offline
Wears Durian Helmet

Joined: Thu Sep 15, 2011 8:18 pm
Posts: 811
Look how far you have come already with your nursing goal! You have/are doing an amazing job. I remember reading a post your wrote a LOOOONG time ago about how you always had poopiebaby attached to you and even had to learn to use the bathroom with him nursing - that is dedication for sure. I'm glad you are seeing that little sliver of light at the end of the tunnel.
I will send you a hug too (it is one of those hugs where you just get a little arm encircling action so nobody squishes sore boobs :P )


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2012 11:38 pm 
Offline
Married to the wolfman
User avatar

Joined: Wed Oct 20, 2010 9:49 pm
Posts: 5871
Location: Santa Cruz, CA
Pretty much what everyone else said poopie: you're amazing.

_________________
"Hummus; a gentleman's vice." -- Mars

coldandsleepy cooks, THE BLOG!


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2012 11:42 pm 
Offline
Drunk Dialed Ian MacKaye
User avatar

Joined: Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:47 pm
Posts: 1810
Location: vancouver island
Poopie, you really are amazing! (I can really relate - I nursed Iz until he was 2 years and maybe 8 months? He was almost 3... Anyway, I wanted to let him decide when to be done, but it gets harder the longer you do it. I wanted my boobs to myself! By the end, I think we started telling him that my boobs were going on vacation or something. It only took about a week before he forgot about them.)

_________________
when you realise how perfect everything is, you will tilt you head back and laugh at the sky. -buddha


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Fri Nov 16, 2012 11:09 am 
Offline
Wears Durian Helmet

Joined: Thu Sep 15, 2011 8:18 pm
Posts: 811
I should probably be posting on the ventilation thread - but I am so upset about my freezer supply of milk. I have about 300 oz in the freezer (which I was SOOO proud of) and went to feed some to giles the other day - he refused it so I tasted it and it was the most horribly wretched "fishy" taste. I apparently have high lipase and it causes the milk to get a pretty terrible taste after it is frozen. I tried cutting the milk half fresh/half frozen and he still refuses. I understand some babies don't mind it so I am trying to find someone to donate to - but I am so sad about my stash! Plus now I am in a quandry about what to do with the "extra" 10-15 oz I pump everyday. Apparently you can scald it before freezing and it will limit the funky taste but honestly with the time consuming pumping already I just don't think I am up for that extra work. Blech. I poured 20 oz down the drain yesterday and felt so wasteful. Giles is 4 months and eats a maximum of 25 oz from the bottle (with one nursing session) right now - does anybody know is that pretty much going to be his norm from now on? Kelly mom seemed to indicate they eat about the same amount until 6 months, but didn't really say what happened after that. I was assuming the amount would go down a wee bit since they would be getting some solids at that point or does it go up because they are more active and bigger?


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Fri Nov 16, 2012 4:40 pm 
Offline
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Sun Apr 10, 2011 6:59 am
Posts: 2232
Location: Oxford, UK
There's often a growth spurt right around 6 months, so he may nurse more then. It's not a sure thing though.

I wonder if there's anyway you can add something to the milk to mask the taste? I don't know if you could do it now, at 4 months, but maybe later some vanilla or something. Yeah, I don't know about that (I'm really really tired over here), but maybe something to investigate.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Fri Nov 16, 2012 4:48 pm 
Offline
Making Threats to Punks Again
User avatar

Joined: Sun Nov 20, 2011 12:16 pm
Posts: 1141
Location: ATX
I'm sorry annasrobbie! I had the same issue and couldn't use any of my freezer stash. I was crushed. Sven will only take pumped milk within 12 hours of me pumping it. I couldn't handling the extra work of scalding it either. I ended up donating privately to a local mom that a midwife put me in touch with. Her baby had my milk from birth and didn't mind at all. So frustrating -- I guess next baby I feed a little frozen milk from day 1? I ended up saving all my extra milk for her until Sven was about 7 months, at which point I rarely needed to have a bottle for him so I just didn't feel like pumping any more.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Fri Nov 16, 2012 6:43 pm 
Offline
Addicted to B12 Enemas
User avatar

Joined: Thu Oct 21, 2010 9:09 am
Posts: 250
I'm so sorry annasrobbie! Pumping is such hard work, and how sad to feel like some of it's for naught. It would be great if you could find a baby who would take your milk so you at least don't feel like it's being wasted. Also, I exclusively pumped for my first for about 10 months, and it's draining as hell. You're amazing for doing that!

Poopie - you're a rock star! I bow down to your commitment - seriously, its amazing.

I posted earlier about having so much excess milk as Charlie starts eating fewer bottles. Followed suggestions to to give him more in each bottle, which seems to be working really well. I'm also rotating my freezer stash by giving him a bottle of frozen milk each day. Not sure why I didn't think of that earlier, but it's been helpful. So now, I'm generally using 5 oz of frozen milk but freezing 5-10 each day. I'm also anxious to hear if anyone has success cutting back pumping at work while still nursing nights and weekends. I'm sure the body is amazing adaptable, but I can't quite imagine it!

_________________
It's not like I'm busting out my boobie tassles and shouting, "BEHOLD! THE MIRACLE OF LIFE!" - TheCrabbyCrafter


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Fri Nov 16, 2012 8:18 pm 
Offline
Because Bob Barker Told Me To
User avatar

Joined: Thu Oct 21, 2010 9:00 am
Posts: 911
Lately I feel like Scarlett is using my nipples as a teething toy. Any suggestions on how to stop her from chomping down? I'm pretty scared of how painful it would be for her to do this once she actually has teeth.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Sat Nov 17, 2012 3:56 pm 
Offline
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Sun Apr 10, 2011 6:59 am
Posts: 2232
Location: Oxford, UK
Is she chomping because of teething pain, do you think? You could try giving her some relief right before nursing (cold toys, teething rings, etc).

Honestly, we still struggling with chewing..F's really having a hard time with a tooth right now and one side feels a bit like a dog toy. Lots of cream has helped to ease the pain, and keeping any cracks clean and dry.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Sat Nov 17, 2012 8:02 pm 
Offline
Because Bob Barker Told Me To
User avatar

Joined: Thu Oct 21, 2010 9:00 am
Posts: 911
Yes, I think she's biting down because of teething pain, and it seems like the more we give her toys and things to gnaw on, the more she mistakes my nipples for one of those toys. I am so sorry you're still going through that, too!


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Sat Nov 17, 2012 10:10 pm 
Offline
And you never will.
User avatar

Joined: Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:41 pm
Posts: 4241
Location: Memphis
You guys are the best. Seriously. I've had a rough couple of days and just got to read the responses to my little pity-party and I feel like 1000x better. I think it's so easy for me to focus on the negative sometimes and I often forget to celebrate the things I have accomplished. My mom tried to breastfeed every one of her biological kids and wasn't able to, my oldest sister was only able to breastfeed the last of her three, my other older sister stopped nursing each of hers after a couple of months... I almost felt like I went into it having failed before I started. Then poopiebaby had failure to thrive, and he was nursing so much I thought there had to be something wrong with me, and I almost gave up so. many. times.

When I think back to all of that now, I wish I could go back in time two years and tell myself not to worry, that everything was normal and it would be okay. I probably would have given anything to know then that I would make it past the two year mark. So instead of looking at it as an annoyance, I just need to recognize what an achievement it is and be thankful that this special nursing relationship is something we got to (and still get to) enjoy.

_________________
I'm in a pure mood with poopietits now. Damn her jugs! - interrobang?!
give my you inquiries! and give poopie you burritos. - acr
Sometimes I think, it's really my lack of cybernetic implants that keeps me from being truly human. - Mars


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: the lactation station: share your breast feedin' stuff h
PostPosted: Sat Nov 17, 2012 10:26 pm 
Online
The Real Hamburger Helper
User avatar

Joined: Thu Feb 17, 2011 10:13 pm
Posts: 2254
Great job, Poopie!

My mom asked me today when I'm going to wean babynut. I brushed it off and changed the subject because her tone made me feel uncomfortable. Babynut is about to turn one and I expect this will be the first of many more comments/raised eyebrows from others. I don't think either of us is ready and I'm not sure why it's an issue to others.


Top
 Profile  
 
Display posts from previous:  Sort by  
Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 2824 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1 ... 78, 79, 80, 81, 82, 83, 84 ... 113  Next

All times are UTC - 6 hours [ DST ]


Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 1 guest


You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum

Search for:
Jump to:  
Powered by phpBB © 2000, 2002, 2005, 2007 phpBB Group
Template made by DEVPPL/ThatBigForum and fancied up by What Cheer