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So I keep on meeting new cute coworkers. The problem is they all work at the front end, at the cash registers. So I don't really get to spend much time with them regularly. I have to hope to meet them on a break or be called to the front end for bagging assistance. There's a really intensely gendered division of labor at the store where 99% of the people working the registers are women. My department, stocking, is all men, aside from one woman who doesn't speak much English. I really wish they'd transfer me to work on the cash register. That way I'd get to meet and interact people (when you're stocking you're pretty much on your own). And I'm also pretty good at running a register. I still remember all the produce codes from a past grocery store employment when I was supervisor.

wouldn't you mostly dealing with customers 99% of the time though? there's plenty of time for the chips to fall.. you haven't been there all that long, have you? give it time!

I guess you're right.

I'm just lonely as fork. I can't take it much longer. grrrr....

I'm feeling really anxious and like I might not go through with Wednesday. It sucks because I want to ask him out, and it's not even like I'm asking him out out- my best friend will be there and take some of the pressure off for both of us. But I just feel like I can't go through with it because if he says no it'll be awkward forever and I still have to work with him three days a week. fork these feelings. Ugh.

That is a tough call.

I think you should do it, GCZ! If you frame it casually and your friend is there too, there's no reason for it to be awkward if he says no. I mean, he might. It's short notice. But it's not like he's going to say No way, GCZ, are you crazy? I'd never date you!

Lol, that's ALWAYS what goes through my head when I ask somebody out.

Yeah, but unless you're repeatedly pestering someone to go out with you after they've politely declined, it's not very likely! And hey, if they do, you know they're not worth dating anyway.

True! Anxiety isn't really realistic though. :)

You guys are right... it's just scary! I've managed to get through all of my life, through middle school, high school, up to now, with never asking anybody out. Ever. The prospect of doing this and being rejected- or, even, having this offer accepted- is just terrifying. But at the same time, if I don't do this, nothing will ever happen, which is worse.

Aaand... that's why I've never asked anyone out! I just think all of y'all should because I'm all mushily in love and want everyone else to be too.

GCZ, just try to keep in mind that even if he turns down your invitation, it doesn't necessarily mean he's rejecting you. It might be too short of notice, he definitely might not interpret your request as being romantically inclined, or he might just feel too shy to join you and your friend together (you said he's sorta awkward, yes?)

Ugh my crush is confusing me. We're dating(ish?) but I haven't seen him in a while. We've been in touch but both of our phones have refused to send/receive messages so that's kind of unreliable.
I have decided the logical course of action is to woman up and ask him if he wants to do something Saturday. Like GCZ, I have made it to this point in my life without asking anyone out. Does this not count because we've already been out a few times? I don't care, I am the nervous. :(

Oh, if that counts, then I've asked someone out. But never from scratch. And yes to nervous...

Sigh.
He started dating someone else.
Back to the drawing board with me!

everyone should totally ask out their crushes! i started asking people out a couple of years ago and yeah, sometimes i get nervous about it beforehand, but i find it kind of exhilarating. sure, people don't always return my interest, or sometimes i know that they also have a crush on me but don't want to date me for some other reason, and that's ok. nobody has ever been offended by my interest- i think people are generally flattered to know that someone is attracted to them, and as long as you present your interest as fairly casual (like "hey! i like you and would enjoy spending more time with you. no pressure though, if you don't want to, that's fine") and not obsessive, then i don't see how it could be problematic. if you find out they're not interested, it's way easier to move on to the next cute person. and if they are interested, then you get to go on a fun date. win-win.

Alright. I'm not asking my crush to hang out with my friend and I tomorrow. On Thursday, when we work together (we close by ourselves), I am mentioning I'm going to a movie, maybe Sunday, and would he like to come along? Because fork it, I'm an adult, never asked anyone out, and here I am all set to do it with my friend holding my hand. No more! Whatever happens will happen and I think I should do it myself.

Whatever happens, I think you're awesome for putting yourself out there, GCZ!

Go GCZ!

We're all rootin' fer ya, GCZ!

GCZ! GCZ! GCZ!

GCZ, good for you! Exciting!

Ahhh thanks you guys :D I'm so excited!

So may guys I crush on/have relationships with end up having J names. So many to the point that I kind of hate that the two that don't are even in my crush list. I think it'd be funny to keep going with the all J thing.

Not going to happen though, those two are super hot.

[quote="Mars"] I think it'd be funny to keep going with the all J thing. /quote]

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