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 Post subject: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
PostPosted: Fri Dec 10, 2010 9:05 am 
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My work friend is having a divorce party tonight to celebrate the Decree Absolute coming through. It's been a long and horrid experience for her, and a bitter and distressing custody and access fight over her child.

I've never been to a formal divorce party - should I take a gift? Should it be something jokey? Should it be a kind of "new beginnings" sort of thing? What the hell would that be?

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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
PostPosted: Fri Dec 10, 2010 9:21 am 
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I've never been to a divorce party either, but if she's celebrating the end of something that was tough and painful, I'd get something nice for her instead of a jokey gift. Something papmering or special just for her to enjoy.

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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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yeah, I wouldn't get anything tacky. I think a gift card to a spa for a massage or a pedicure would be great. My sister's divorce will be final in about 2 months so I was thinking of doing something along those lines for her, actually.

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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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any new hobbies? I'm thinking of getting a gift certificate for yoga classes or a spa for a family member who is going through the same thing. Now that she doesn't have someone sucking the life out of her she's doing stuff for herself-so something along those lines.


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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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Definitely something pampering. When my divorce was final, my girlfriends threw me a "re-bachelorette" party because they thought it was crazy that I'd never had a bachelorette party when I got married (I don't think it's crazy that we didn't do bachelor and bachelorett parties, but apparently they thought I missed out.) So, I got a lot of jokey gifts, but it was sort of their party, their theme, so a different situation than your friend I think. I don't think you can go wrong with a gift card to a day spa or something along those lines.

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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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Great advice, my friends - thank you. Spa voucher it is.

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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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a dildo! get her a dildo!!!!!!!




just kidding. spa voucher is a good choice.

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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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I'd go with sex toys. But given the troublesome divorce it might be difficult to get a reading on what kinda of divorce party this is (the breakup divorce part? the wooooohoooo! divorce part? the bitter ex is a douche party? the ice cream and sob stories etc).

Spa is a nice choice because regardless of the kind of party it's a nice gift and doesn't risk being inappropriate.

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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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before even reading any of the other responses, i was going to suggest gift certificate for a massage or spa. so i am chiming in with the chorus suggesting the same thing!


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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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I like the spa or massage idea, I'd steer clear of the jokey stuff. I just had my divorce finalized recently, it was so anti-climatic. I didn't even think to throw a party to celebrate. I did adopt a cat though.

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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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I got myself a really nice ring on the day my divorce was finalized and my mom took me to get a pedicure. I think the spa/massage stuff sounds like a great thing to do for your friend.

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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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yeah i was thinking some more about the dildo idea and while it would be nice for her to have some "me-time", i think it might be offensive at this point, because she just got rid of a penis, and she probably doesn't want to feel like she has to replace it with another ...penis.

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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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rather than giving a gift, you should go to her house and steal her toaster or blender.


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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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Damn, you are all so G rated.. I was totally going to say sex toy.
Massage GC or LUSH bath items would be awesome though.

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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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Bring a big bottle of wine to share, and go the relaxing pamper yourself style thing. Spa is always good, maybe give her enough for 2 so she can take a friend if she wants, or go twice if she doesn't.

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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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a dildo! get her a dildo!!!!!!!

just kidding. spa voucher is a good choice.



my mind went to sex toys as well, spa gc's are always nice too!

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 Post subject: Re: Divorce party - gift etiquette?
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Well, it can go either way, a crazy fun party with jokes and sex toys, or somehting more classy where a pampering gift would be more appropriate.

Guess what would work for both? Wine or champagne. I would go with that, if you are not sure what kinda party it is. You don't wanna show up with a dildo to a tea party (or do you???)

oh, and is the post above spam? or for real? haha. Meredith Vieira Productions.


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